Marriage Advice for a Young, Black Female?

Hi everyone, I'm a Y!A lurker but I finally decided to cave in %26amp; join :)





Basically, to introduce myself: I'm 21 yrs old %26amp; I'm about to graduate university in May. I plan on teaching ELA (English Language Arts) %26amp; will be certified at the grades 4-8 level. I don't know if any of you know this but a good friend of mine %26amp; I (she's female too) were discussing marriage in the Black community. She is a Business major %26amp; is going to Law school right afterwards, she is very career-oriented %26amp; I am very family-oriented.





I want to marry %26amp; have children, %26amp; she would rather adopt 1 child %26amp; travel the world. At the same time, she has more world experience than I do (she's been all over). My parents are immigrants from Trinidad %26amp; are pretty traditional for the most part.





I've dated many guys before, %26amp; many of these guys haven't been black. Not that that is a huge issue, but I have not yet had a serious relationship. It's just that one of my biggest fears is being a part of that unmarried black woman statistic. I mean, I will be teaching, I'm very friendly, reserved (at first), love to have fun, %26amp; I'm a very simple girl. I've had men dangle money at me before but I refused taking money from them...





Can anyone offer any words of encouragement??





this is what I look like in case you were curious:


http://i254.photobucket.com/albums/hh117/gisellemybelle/friends004-1.jpgMarriage Advice for a Young, Black Female?
You seem like a very nice, intelligent, and level-headed woman; and from your picture, you are also very physically attractive. And I like what you said about guys ';dangling money'; in front of you. It's obvious that you're not ';for sale'; and that's another quality that men (if they were smart) would really like about you.





You're only 21 and you have your whole life ahead of you. So there's no rush. Take your time and when the time is right, the man who is perfect for you will be there.





As for the race issue ... maybe it's easy for me to say this because I'm not black, but I wouldn't concentrate too much on race if I were you.





I'm in an interracial marriage myself (my husband is white, I'm Korean-American) and to us, it's really not an issue. The most important thing is that he isn't perfect, I'm not perfect -- but we are perfect for each other. I didn't marry a white man -- I married the man who I love and who is perfect for me, and that man happens to be a different race from me.





I'm not sure what your parents think about you dating a man who's of a different race from you. Hopefully, though, they understand that they chose to immigrate to the United States, which is a very multicultural society, and they chose to raise you in that society.





As such, hopefully, they understand that interracial relationships are a common fact of life in 21st-century America -- and that they know, as Martin Luther King Jr. said -- the most important thing about a person is not the color of their skin, but the content of their character.


.Marriage Advice for a Young, Black Female?
Well you are attractive but I don't exactly know how that answers your question. In fact, I'm not sure what your question is. Start your career. Let things happen as they will. We don't always get to plan everything. Some things just have to happen naturally.
dangling money at you for what reason? i cant picture it except for sexual favors?


anyway whats your problem? i think you want a white man. is that it?


only marry for true love, real love.


there are divorces amoung all races of people.
This is not a dating forum %26amp; you sound desperate. If it's meant to be it will be. But offering yourself is not improving your chances of marriage.
what do you mean unmarried black statistic? most black women i know have 2 or 3 marriages.