What is some great marriage advice you've received in the past?

My parents have been married over 40 yrs and believe it or not, dad still takes mom out every week on a date, even if its just a coke and conversation. 17 yrs ago when I got married he told me these words ';If you want her to treat you like a king, treat her like a queen first';.





Dad adores mom and is always there for her. In return she has returned his love with her own. I'm thankful for their example these 40+ yrs. As a kid it brought security and stability to the home. Now I am trying to do that for my 3 kids.What is some great marriage advice you've received in the past?
Good for your parents and evidently you took your father's advice. Treating each other like a Queen and King doesn't just come out of the blue................it's hard work sometimes and I bet you and your parents agree. It means that every difference of opinion doesn't turn into an ugly screaming match and soon your only concerned with winning the argument instead of calmly discussing what you can do to make it better, even if it means one of you has to comprise. It means you respect each other and don't separate when things get tough and you support each other when one is going through some kind of crisis. It's a lot more but it is not giving up on the marriage at the first little sign of trouble..............which seems to be the way people handle it today.What is some great marriage advice you've received in the past?
';Be the kind of person your spouse would still want to marry again';.





';Do something nice - even a little thing - every day';





';If you have a bad fight, you can go to sleep still angry, but make sure you tell them you love them and that we'll work this out later';





';Never leave the house during a fight unless there is a physical confrontation brewing';





I am so happy for your parents and thus you. Too bad mine didn't do that.
If you have been married 17 years already sounds like you are doing just fine, But I was always told when you are arguing never bring up the past, stick to the current issue and always allow your partner the room to change.
My gran gave me loads of good advice. The thing that always stuck with me was this--The woman is the sun in the solar system of her home, the more you shine, the more the people around you light up.





She was so right!
Act like you are still dating - unexpected tokens of appreciation (1 flower on a random date better than 3 doz roses on valentines), patience, tolerance and compromise.
I love that! Your parents are so right, treat us right and we will take of the rest.





The best advice I received was to never yell at eachother or not to go to bed mad.
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Keep the fights clean and the sex dirty.
My dad told me back in 1981: never get mad at the same time.
Never yell at each other unless the house is on fire.
You're parents deserve a big round of applause! That's great that they are still truly in love and act like it. And kudos to you as well for those 17 long years, and still striving to make it better.





I once got advice from an elderly couple who had been married God only knows how long... they said, ';Don't sweat the small stuff.'; That makes perfect sense. Pick your battles. If something isn't *really* that big of a deal, just let it go. I've been practicing this in my own relationship and it's completely true. I don't care about the fact that he leaves his dirty clothes on the floor every day... it's no sweat of my brow to pick them up because I love him. What's more important, getting into a pissing match over dirty socks, or maintaining the harmony in our relationship? We only ';fight'; if there is something legitimate to fight about.