Thursday, December 31, 2009

Okay... I am having trouble in my marriage and need advice... please!?

My husband and I are BORED! We cannot think of anything to do together. And it needs to be at home. We have a 2 year old and dont always have a sitter so we can go out. We get to go out maybe once a month. But we need things to do at home. We are tired of playing games either on the computer or board games or XBOX etc. And we are tired of watching TV or movies.Okay... I am having trouble in my marriage and need advice... please!?
make a simple list five things that each of you wish to do has to be new


then exchange lists and try out what ever it maybe even if you don't like it


if he enjoys it he will appreticate you more for doing it and visa vercaOkay... I am having trouble in my marriage and need advice... please!?
Go places with your child together. the park, the mall, walks the zoo. You can also turn off the computer and tv and talk. You can always read the same book and discuss it.





When you have a child, life becomes more about family than doing things just the two of you. Spending atleast 30 minutes a day talking about real stuff keeps a marriage together but doing things as a fmaily is important for the child to be raised in a stable home. A night out once a month is good just the two of you.





You can also make friends with other couples with children the same age as yours.
Go to a high school ball game or have some friends over late for drinks and games. I like the picnic idea, as well as bike riding and hiking on smooth terrain with a stroller. Fall is a great time to be outside. Try to mix it up with some other couples, especially those with kids. The kids will wander off together many times. Then, finally, you can have some adult conversation.
Strip poker !
(1) List what drew you to your hubby in the first place. If any of the answers still interest you work on those together. If you made the mistake of making physical attraction #1 read on:


(2) Make a list of things that interest YOU %26amp; work on those. Perhaps he might join you. Just remember, you can @ least try.


(3) See if he'll make a list of things that interests HIM. Check it out to see if anything sounds like fun.


(4) If you have no sitter, does the church you attend have a 'parents' nignt out' where couples baby-sit for one another so they can go out on a regular basis. If you don't attend church, think of that as a family activity to do.


(5) If you still turn up with no sitters, face the fact that you have to find things to do as a family. In 10 short years you %26amp; your husband may find that your bundle of joy no longer thinks that you have any merits at all. Enjoy you baby while he/she still thinks you hung the moon %26amp; stars. For example, my son and family met me yesterday at Mesker's Park. The grandkids (ages 1 %26amp;2) loved it and we were all smiles.


(a) Go for family strolls with the little one.


(b) Take baby to Wesselman's park.


(3) Go together to the library during 'story time'.


(4) Buy an entertainment book at the local credit union and do some of the fun things for 1/2 price.


(5) Take baby to watch you and daddy bowl.


(6) Take him/her to the putt-putt golf course. Baby can chase down the golf balls for you.


(7) Go for longs hikes with baby in a back pack.


(8) Forget the XBox. Live your life instead of watching someone else live on TV.


(9) Do an internet search for good ideas of what a family can do for fun.


If someone told you that parenting is fun they were lying to you. Best of times to you and your family.
Why not cook together? Do a scavenger hunt in the house, etc..
My husband and I also have kids. A ten year old a four year old and a 17 month old. So it is really hard for us to find a sitter also. What we do is call some of our friends and have them over. We make margaritas and the kids play in the bedrooms. If your friends have kids then it even better. Its like a slumber party for them. Sometimes we grill a supper or have poker night. Its fun and we feel like we get to have a life.
Recreate your first date.


Have a food fight


Lay under the stars and just talk


Get a basketball goal, and play some ball


Have friends over too play cards





All of these ideals are based on after hours, of child being alseep!!


Hope these help! Good Luck!!
Wow, tough question. I usually have some type of answer to give. I'm sorry I can not help. My husband and I are not bored. We both work, so doing nothing at night, after dinner is usally a welcomed thing. The weekend are filled with housework and yardwork.
tie his undies up in a knot and stick em up his butt, then have him do the same to u, when u pull them out for each other try french kissing. that always worked for us.
Try some home improvement projects. Do you know any other couples with children? We do a lot with other couples with kids. It is a lot more fun!





If you do not know any, try to go to some local parks and meet people.
Why does it need to be at home?? You can go on walks together with your 2 year old in a stroller or a little bike... go to the park and play all together... or read (maybe some relationship books). It seems what you really need to do is talk to each other and discuss what's going on in your relationship and why you've settled for ';justing being'; and instead of living life. Having a child doesn't mean you have to be confined to your home. This is a choice you have made, not a ';situation you are in';!
Maybe instead of playing with games you could play with toys instead:
You might want to do a picnic at home in your living room. Turn the TV and computer off and do something different. Or you might want to try cooking some new recipes together. Find something you may have wanted to try and make that the theme for the evening
Hey don't get stressed look there are lots of great things you can do together. As you baby is 2 he will go to bed early. Why not prepare a special meal sit down and have it together. Or just snuggle up on the sofa and watch a romantic film. You don't have to spend a lot on things to enjoy time together. You go for it gal and make the most of the time you share with your husband because even though you don't go out very often the simple things will make your relationship really special.
Sitting inside a confined place is the creator of most problems.... You should go out with your kid and hus for a walk around the street. If you can't make a restaurant/movie forget it. This will sure make a difference. Relations are not to be broken..Computer games can create this stupid problems that makes you keep confined. But am single so I like the games..
this helps me %26amp; my hubby when we get bored:





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Have a late candle lit dinner after the little one goes to bed with some wine (if you drink) and a good conversation. Or make a picnic in your backyard with or without the little one.





If your into ';spice'; try: He's the really cute mailman and your husband isn't home..... get the picture? :) Sometimes the thought of something forbidden can spice it up.





Use your imagination. :)
well get yall a video cam for the pc join and adult group and do some chatting and camming that will be fun and sexxy too..it will spice things up...for more info send me an email.
Go for a nature walk with your son. Invite friends over. Visit a museum.
i would say somthing like going to parks with the kid, like picnics, and if you want to do something alone just the 2 of u, then i would say wait till ur kids asleep and make dinner for each other. or do personal litle things like u would before u were married like write eachother love letters etc
Give each other a challenge during the week,


examples:


take a picture of something that reminded you of that person when you were away from each other, or you could challenge that picture to be of something sad, happy, scared, bored, something of hope, you name it it could go from a color to a certain type of clothing. That challenge can go from finding other items to picking up some suprise dessert for dinner.


Try doing a picnic on the livingroom floor, you can make it a beach scene and wear swimsuits or a romantic old fashion picnic with fried chicken and a good book that you both could share reading to each other.


Pull out old highschool year books or baby books, even wedding albums, it will let you two enjoy memories, you may learn some new things about each other.


My fave is this dress up night, you can choose anything the other wears and they choose for you. You both have to act the part of what the other dresses you like. (Just don't share this with your friends, guys don't like others knowing you have dressed them in heels)





Remember that dates nights are just for the two of you, no phone and if the baby cries, check on it and let the little one fall back to sleep.





I hope these ideas help, best of luck!
We have a 16 month old daughter so I understand how it is. One night a month is not often enough. My husband and I use to cook together. It is a lot of fun because you joke around and your not sitting in front of the tv. You could take a walk, sit outside and watch traffic or the sunset. One night we got bored and decided to paint my toe nails. We use to to crosswords puzzles. Each of us had a book. But we got tired of that fast. We also use to play cards everynight.

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