Need advice about marriage.?

My husband and I have been married for about a year and 8 months. He has this month been home a year from a deployment to Iraq. His doctor told him he had PTSD. He has had an appointment to go to the VA to see someone about this disorder but he won't face it. He cancels his appts and won't get help. And doesn't think he needs help. We have been having some issues with our marriage for the past 6-8 months. He won't talk to me about feelings, emotion, etc. We don't show each other affection, we don't get along well, and we don't have sex very much. I know counseling is a good way to help but thats not going to work right at the moment. Im trying to find a way to fix our problems without going to see someone. I don't know if we should separate or if we should keep living together and see if it works. I just don't know what to do anymore. Please Help without Negative Comments. Thanks!Need advice about marriage.?
If he will not seek help, than YOU seek help, for yourself.





This does not mean ONLY you have to fix things, but oftentimes, when we seek help for OURSELVES, we become better, and our lives improve, even though the person we are married to may still be struggling.





Just some words of advice my dear, for YOU.





Good luck and God Bless you.Need advice about marriage.?
I am affraid that counseling is going to be the only thing that will help your marriage at this point. Sounds like your marriage is lacking communication, which is a very important part of any relationship. It takes 2 people to make a marriage work, it's not just one sided. If both people aren't willing to work at it, then it won't work. Good luck.
sorry to hear this, he needs the help, Professional help. some of our soldiers went through some rough time over there. you could help him by being understanding, but he needs to want to help himself, he is still in denail. some people got affected more than others, and it is understandable it was not a field trip. but now they are back home thanks god for those who came back, and he needs to live life to the fullest. in order for him to do this he need to get help, not only for him by for those who care and love him.
Many people have marriage difficulties/problems.


So, your not alone...


I don't know what ptsd is, so can't comment on that...


My daughter recently filed for divorce - and I was telling friends about it.


One comment from a lady was that - its difficult to decide wether to go on suffering for years or to make a move...And only you can decide that. You must do what is right for you...You didn't say if you had any children(?)


good luck...
Back off and relax! Give him his space when he needs and his comfort when he needs it, don't look for answers to fix the problems when you stop looking for them things will get easier! I have P.T.S.D. my husband has it also all you can do is love him unconditionally as you


would love a child or a brother or sister. When you love a spouse this way it gets much easier.... You can not push him to get help and sometimes the mediaction triggers the memories worse, let him deal with it in his own way in his own time... meanwhile be supportive by giving him space, time and love...

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