Why is every-one's advice for marriage is ';communication is the key.'; What if communication is one-sided?

I had a great discussion in my book club today. What if you are the communicator, say how you feel, and put everything out there but the other person continues to do the same things that you continuously express are a problem for you. For example...my friend said her husband makes huge decisions (without her knowledge) that affect the both of them. He actually made the decision to purchase a certain house meaning. she knew they were looking but he made the decision while she was at work without her knowledge on which house it would be. She has been married for 10 years and has expressed her concern, and issue but he continues to not tell her things that affect the both of them. I've actually been in a similar situation. How can you help a situation like this when communication is one-sided.Why is every-one's advice for marriage is ';communication is the key.'; What if communication is one-sided?
I'd never make a major decision, or purchase without my wife's knowledge %26amp; understanding. I would consider that to be wrong to do so.


It sounds to ME like you need to get his ';undivided attention';, so you can discuss this problem with him. IF he won't discuss it with YOU, perhaps he'd prefer to speak with Your Lawyer.Why is every-one's advice for marriage is ';communication is the key.'; What if communication is one-sided?
I agree. More communication is not the key. QUALITY communication is the key. We dont like to admit when a situation has no resolve. But honestly ,we all know that if you are trying with all your might to get it right...but this passion for progression is not reciprocated....you will always hit a dead end. Sometimes, it takes an actual sneek peek at the consequences for a person to see what possible damages their behaviour can cause.
Communication requires two people.





Marriage requires communication but it also requires trust - your friend doesn't have that with her hubby. If hubby buys a house for the two of you without your participation or approval you (she) have picked a dud. How did she stay for 10yrs?





She should let him know it's a deal breaker.
If it is one-sided, it is a lecture, not communication. There is little that one can do except ask.
Communication is never one sided ... What you call one sided communication ... is NO COMMUNICATION at all .
if the communication is one sided then you probably feel like your sitting on the wrong end of the key.
then u dont have any communication and thats no 1, when its onesided like that we call it talking to ur self
Your kidding , Right ?





Just because you are talking your butt off , does not mean that


the other person is listening , or that they even agree with what


your saying .





In other words , it's going in one ear and out the other .





Your a women !


Do some of the Female stuff that scares the crap out of men .


The only communication that is worth a damn is the kind that


puts the fear of the Lord into someone ! Fear is your friend !





If you truly want change , then demand change , and let them know the consequences of their non-compliance to your demands .





Now thats , how you communicate !!
I've been there,done that.He has to be the one to realize, what he is doing is not working between the two of them,it destroys your marriage,your love ,your trust ,your family.He cannot have full control all the time, it takes two.Just dont give in unless he changes,it's a difficult road with someone like that.Stay positive,and strong,believe in god and in youself,you'll get through it.Helping others will help oneself also.Also others who are like that need to sit back and stop trying to be right all the time,no answer is always right.God bless.