In Need Of Marriage ADVICE!?

Hi.





I am 18 years old, and have been dating a wonderful girl for about 6 months now. I have been homeschooled my whole life, and at 16 started going to the nearby community college where i learned a LOT about the world. I have worked at Chick-fil-a the local fastfood for 4 years now (since i was 14) and am a Sophmore at the University here. I have had many opportunities in my life to date girls and never even once gone out with a girl because i chose not to, i always dreamed of finding that ONE girl that i would save myself for and marry. I am a devout Christian who seeks all things from the Lord, so i have prayed much about this. Now, yes at 18, i am SO ready to marry this girl, the love of my LIFE, and NO ONE approves. Although this is expected, i wonder how i can go about this? Any advice/stories to relate with are GREATLY appreciated!! There is a LOT of info left.....feel free to ask!!





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whats the hurry? if this girl is right for you, she and you can wait until both of you are mature enough, have graduated school, and have steady careers.





some of the people who dont approve are probably older than you, have seen more than you of life, relationships, fiscal responsibilities, and have faced career-building hardships. they're letting you know what they've learned in life and what the odds are and what the risks are. so, maybe you shouldnt rush into things as this seems to sound like a bad idea to soooo many people.





if a large group of panicking people are screaming and begging you not to run into a certain dark room, would you run into it blindly without being suspicious about why all those people are scared for you to go into that unknown room?





this is akin to the situation you are facing now. you dont know what's ahead for you at your very young age, with your very limited amount of relationship experience, and you without a stable future as yet to take care of a wife and possibly 'unexpected' children - because 'accidents' do happen.





dont rush into the unknown yet. get yourself assituated and grounded as a fully independent adult before you rush into something so very serious and life changing for the two of you, especially as there might be children involved whether you planned them or not.





if you're scared she and/or you cant wait it out until you guys are both out of your teenage years and with stable careers, then that means the relationship you are in now wont be strong enough to withstand all the trials and tribulations of a marriage either. establishing your adult life is going to be tough enough let alone piling on a marriage involving two very young people without much relationship experience.In Need Of Marriage ADVICE!?
I think it's totally foolish to marry someone so young or so quickly. Marrying quickly or marrying young is much more likely to lead to a divorce than marring someone after years of dating and marrying in your mid-twenties.





I'm a several years older than you and have been with relationship for over seven years. I didn't face any real tests to my current relationship until after a couple years of dating. So, I really don't think it's possible to know someone until you've been with them a few years and have been through hard times together.





If you haven't cleaned up their puke you don't know them. If you haven't seen them through the death, illness, or disability of a friend or family member or something equally stressful you don't know them. And yes, you have to have a major fight before you really know someone.





Since you say you're a devout Christian you may disagree with me here, but I personally believe you should also live with someone before marriage. That really lets you know if you're compatible with someone.





If your relationship is meant to last it will, marriage or not. So there's really no need to rush into things.





Also how ready does she feel? Is she as committed to you as you are to her? Maybe she's not ready. Most teenage girls wouldn't be ready for marriage after only six months of dating.
You've only been dating for six months, and you have never dated anyone else. Now I'm not saying she's not the one for you, she may be, but speaking from experience... I thought my first boyfriend was the love of my life, wanted to get married etc. Once we broke up, I realised that I actually didn't love anything ABOUT him, really. I loved being in love, I loved being in a relationship... but there was nothing really special about him. He was very average and we didn't have the connection that I thought we had. I was just a teenager in love.





So with my second boyfriend, I also decided that we would probably get married. Same thing happened with him... we broke up, I realised I didn't really like him all that much. I just loved being in a relationship.





So I think you should pray about it and take a deep look at this situation. What do you love ABOUT her, what do you love about her personality? Is she strong? Is she stable? Does she have ambitions? What are her dreams and goals for the future, are they similar to yours? Do you share the same morals and values? Do you respect each other? Have you ever had a FIGHT? Have you ever had heated discussions and had to work them out? Do you know what she's like when she's angry, sad, frustrated, happy etc? Do you feel a deep connection? Because you need to distinguish between love of love, and love of this girl.