So confused about my marriage. advice needed.?

my husband and i got married in july 07.we were 19 i was 7 months pregnant. he moved in with me and my parents and worked because i got fired. in august of that year he was texting and emailing girls in a dirty way saying he should have f***ed them when he had the chance. he would visit them after he got off work. i said something about it and he said he would stop, he didn't, in april of this year i found out he had cheated on me when i was 5 months pregnant. and he was texting that same girl saying he was gonna stay the night and have some drinks with her while me and my daughter were out of state. i confronted him and he didn't go. i'm getting really frustrated with him keeping things from me. and not helping me with our baby. i want to move out but he has a major spending problem and he makes good money but just blows it. he is taking advantage of living with my parents. i'm just not happy anymore. i haven't really been our whole marriage. i don't know what to do. can someone help me with some advice? sorry this was kind of long. i appreciate all answersSo confused about my marriage. advice needed.?
Please ignore those who have opinions about when you should or should not have gotten married. You didn't ask for their opinion on that.





I am so glad you are living at home with your parents and that he has a good job. I would normally recommend counseling to try to save the marriage but honestly, the marriage wasn't built on the right foundation and can't be saved. You've already confronted him about his habitual infidelities. That being said, with the support of your parents, contact a divorce lawyer and file for alimony and child support. Also, make sure he does NOT include a clause that allows him to claim your child as a dependent when he files for taxes. I've seen many women make this mistake. How you choose to put him out of the house is your decision but to be fair, you may want to give him 2-4 weeks. Just because he's being a jerk doesn't mean you have to stoop to his level.





Continue living with your parents for as long as you can while you pursue an education and get a better job. You could just choose to get a job right away but hey, take advantage of the support of your family while you can and make sure they know how much you appreciate everything they do.





If you want to try to save your marriage, you can try counseling with either a licensed therapist or the pastor of your church, with or without your husband. Whatever you decide, make sure it's your decision and that you make that decision very soon.





I wish you the best!So confused about my marriage. advice needed.?
He is NOT the right husband for you, nor a good father. Get rid of him, you can have his paychecks garnished, and kick him out of your parents house. You can do better. He is not thinking or caring about the baby or you.





And Tom Leykis isn't exactly the greatest to listen to either. He has a huge chip on his shoulder. Used to listen to him, not anymore.
It was a big mistake to get married. You're too young to get married at the age of 19, and have a baby. What were you thinking? Also, you need to go out and get an education. My last piece of advice is to start listening to Tom Leykis. His website is www.blowmeuptom.com, and he will help you out if you listen daily.
Lay the law down. This is the way it will be or 30 days you are long gone and of course he pays..
just hang in there...and tell him how much u would love a baby....he's sure to cahnge...if he really loves u
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In my opinion, NO woman should marry before she is 28. No man before he is 30. They are just too young and immature before reaching these ages.





Having said this, what is done, is done! I feel that you should divorce him. He is having his cake and eating it, too. He's living the high life while sponging off of your parents and disrespecting you.





DIVORCE HIM! Let some other woman worry about reshaping him into a mature human being.