I need some marriage advice! Im very confused!?

My husband and i have been married almost 2 years. We have a beautiful daughter. I love him with everything, and would do or change anything for him. while we were going out i was pregnant and he would go on chat lines and talk to girls, and when confronted he would lie and say that its someone he knows. we got married and then he started looking at porn while at work on his phone. when confronted he would lie! he is always accusing me of cheating and criticizing me of my past, making me break down and laughing about it and then he would try to kiss me and expect it to all be ok. I have hit him over it and he would tell everyone i was abusive and a few time i would push him or something like that and he would plop down like i hurt him and say oww. he has called his dad cause he helped us buy a car, and tell him that i was taking our daughter and leaving for good! when what i really said was that i wanted to go some were because we were arguing and get away. his dad would tell him to not let her get the keys and he would yank then away from me if i had em or even tackle me. and his dad also said that if i left with the car that he would come and take it from me! He is very childish and he is always saying im stupid or that i need to grow up because im younger when really he does. he has this FRIEND that is a girl at work who has in the past cheated on her fiance that he works with and he has called her and she is always texting her. we go into a argument about it before and he took his stuff and left! (He isnt from around here so he has no one but my family.) He went to her house and stayed there with her and her fiance. her fiance works a normal schedual and they work from 7pm-7am so they were there alone alot!! i talked him back we were doing great for a while and he is an alcholic he stopped drinking when we first got together but latly he drinks behing my back he will do it on his way from work, he would do it at someones house with a guy he works with. i told him i didnt want him to be drinking and he said its only 1, i like the taste! and he says im controlling him all the time and i act just like his mom and dad. he just wants to do what he wants when and how he wants. he loves me, he really needs help. and anytime i try to talk to him and tell him that he is doing something wrong with our daughter or with our marriage he says ';I just a bad person'; or gets REALLY MAD and yells and stomps away! he dont ever want to talk about our problems or anything. i just cant stay sain anymore! what do i do? i love him alot and want to be together but he just doesnt want to help our marrige or family.I need some marriage advice! Im very confused!?
This sounds like you two should never have gotten married. He doesn't seem to love you or respect you. I don't know if he has cheated or not, but he just doesn't seem to be happy with you, and you certainly aren't happy in your current situation. If I were you I would leave with your child and after getting divorced, find happiness with someone else.I need some marriage advice! Im very confused!?
Marriage is a 2 way street.Seems like there are some serious trust issues.Sounds like your committed to the relationship.Maybe its time for you to move on?
Girl ...I've been there, done that, got the t-shirt! Take it from me get away while you still can. I know you love him and want to be there for him and help him...but you can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped. You can not change him and it only gets worst. You have a responsibility now to that child. It's not about you anymore or about him. From what it sound like, your life isn't very stable and a child shouldn't be brought up in that kind of environment. You need to do what's right for that baby. You also need to do what is right for you. He sounds childish and immature. Unfortunately he's not going to change right now, especially if your sitting there accepting the things he does. Confronting him is not enough, he needs to see that you are serious, you need to let him go. you know the saying if you love someone you have to let them go, if they come back then it was meant to be. If not..well you already know. It's going to be hard, and it will hurt, but in the end it will be worth it. Either he will grow up, be the man and father he should be or you will move on and find happiness elsewhere. Either way you win and you deserve to win.
He's acting like this because he hasn't seen what he's going to missing out on. One piece of advice that i would give and many people would probably disagree with me but don't give him the time of day and ignore what he is doing. It's going to be hard for you but act like if you don't even care anymore and he will know and hopefully see what he is doing wrong. If things don't get better maybe consider counseling at least for you at least to help ou throuhg this and offer it to him as well but if he doesn't want it may be time to move on.
Sounds like your husband does need help - but if he isn't willing to admit that there is a problem, then there is nothing you can do for him. I wouldn't even tell him that you are going - you said he works from 7pm - 7am, just pack your bags and leave. I'm sure you can stay at one of your families houses.





He is also extremely immature and self centred. He has had an alcohol problem in the past but is still drinking (doesn't matter if it is only one) - he is emotionally abusive and when he doesn't get his own way he either leaves or gets his father's assistance.





You need to leave him because he isn't going to change