What advice would you give a single woman who is contemplating marriage?

based on your own experience....What advice would you give a single woman who is contemplating marriage?
Be over 25 and date for at least 2 years. Examine his behavior, not what he says and then make your decision.





Insert 'her' for the guys, same applies.What advice would you give a single woman who is contemplating marriage?
My only advice is to ask yourself these questions:





Is he good to you on all levels?


Does he make you happy?


Does he put you first in his life?


Is he the type of father that you want for your kids?


Can you picture yourself with him in 40 years?


Do you feel like he is your true soulmate?


Can he provide you with a good life?


Do you trust him fully?


Has he prooven himself to be worthy of you?





If you answered yes to all of them, then tie the knot girl!!!
Make sure you have a maid of honor who's dependable


If you are having a party the previous night stay with her.Plus you may not want to drink too much, nobody wants a drunken bride.
Give him some head.
Make sure that you are totally in love with the man don't settle for just liking him and hope it will turn into love. Be sure and I can't say this enough that you can communicate with him. Communication is very very important in a marriage. Make sure that you are upfront with him about what you expect from the life you will be living together and be very up front about what you want sexually. Have these discussion before you get married and make sure both of you understand what the others wants and needs are.
if you question it, don't do it.


(and i'm answering your QUESTION)
Make sure you know for sure you are ready for marriage and EVERYTHING that comes with it.
Make sure it's your best friend and lover. You can't go wrong.
Show up to teh church ON TIME!!!
1) If you suspect your man is a mommas boy, end the relationship.





2) If your man lies a lot, or has cheated on you in the past, end the relationship.





3) If you and your man argue a lot over the same things or petty things, then don't get married until all issues are resolved.





4) If possible, live a minimum of 1000 miles away from any in-laws. They are the biggest contributors to failed marriages.





5) If you think your MIL is a busy body and in your business too much for your comfort, establish your boundaries now and don't back down.





6) If your man can't keep a job or won't help you out around the house, better reassess this relationship.
If you mean, how can I have a long and fulfilling marriage... my advice is to ignore everything that modern feminism touts as truthful.





Feminism, in its current manifestation, is about grievance and selfishness. Marriage - to be a lifelong marriage - requires that you put your family's needs above your own (i.e., no selfishness) and that you be willing to make peace, smooth over conflict, not stir up conflict, and to forgive (i.e., no grievance-oriented thinking).





I am a counselor. I would say that 95% of all of the breakups that I have witnessed in my life have feminism lurking in the background. Feminism is simply incompatible with a long and satisfying marriage.
Just be sure you are marrying for the right reasons. Love is important. But you have to like this man as well. You marry with the goal to spend the rest of your life with him. If you love him but don't like him. Like will soon rule out love after living together under the same roof day in and day out.
I was a single mom for 7 years. Got married a little over a year ago... here is my advice:





Make sure the man has bonded with your child before marriage. He plays with the child. He takes the child out for special time (one on one time). He can interact well with the child so the child can respect him.





He should know that you are the one to do discipline and make the final choices on the well-being of your child. His opinions count, yes, but you still have final say.





Let him know that if you are not around when something happens (child gets in trouble), he is to send the child to his/her room and let you take it from there. Talk to both husband and child before making any calls on discipilne.





He is to never hit the child, or use harsh words with the child.





If he has never been an active parent before, make sure you guys go to parenting classes BEFORE the marriage.





These are things that will help your relationship with you new husband and also the relationship with the step-father/child. They are boundaries.





Make sure you spend quality time with your child so he/she doesn't get jealous of the new relationship. Make special time for mom/child bonding. Do things together like you used to do before you got married.





Inform you child that even though step-dad is not their real father, they should respect him and obey him. The two of you are a team now and should not be underminded when the child goes behind one parent's back to the other to get something they want. It's easier to stop that in the start. Communicate with you husband if the child asks for something, and it seems that for the respect of his opinion, you should ask him before giving the child a concrete answer.





Don't be played - cause you child will figure out how to work the two of you...





Spend quality time together as a family also... VERY important! The child must see that you and your new husband and the child are a family. Special time together is important in the bonding process... plus it's fun! Camping, bowling, game nights, movie nights, fishing, etc... all fun stuff to do as a family.





The thing my son tells me he wishes for *he's 8 years old now*... is that we had more ';family time'; and that he could spend more time with his (step) ';dad';. His step dad hasn't bonded with my son... and doesn't seem to know how to, or have the interest. Something I wish I could have seen as a BIG red flag before we got married.





Good luck!





(EDIT: I thought the question was about being a single mom - contemplating marriage! Ugh... However the case... guess I'll leave my answer up - someone else might read it and get some use out of it!)