Advice on healing a Marriage and Regaining the Spark/Excitement that seems to be lost?

I'm close to a marriage, and could use some advice on how to help;...discretely if possible.





Also, any advice to give to the *male and possibly the female (she's family) separately.Advice on healing a Marriage and Regaining the Spark/Excitement that seems to be lost?
Communication is the thing... They must talk about their difficulties. They need to find time to be alone even if its only for a short time. They need to learn to love themselves as well as each other. They need reminding of the early days of their relationship. They have to talk about what they like and desireAdvice on healing a Marriage and Regaining the Spark/Excitement that seems to be lost?
They have to want to inject spark back into the relationship....you could try to busy them tickets for a concert or something they would not normally do or find a brochure for a weekend break somewhere and give it to one of them. But at teh end of the day they have to both want and be prepared to communicate.
Dr Laura Schlessinger's books...........';The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage'; AND ';The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands';. Also, please see her site, as it may have more suggestions for you...these are her great books!! EVERY WOMAN SHOULD HAVE THAT BOOK..Proper care and Feeding of Husbands!!! It is good, clean, and loving advice!





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I know for myself, I have been married almost 12 years, my husband and I set aside a certain time every day just for us. A lot of times we just sit and talk and nothing more. He also will periodically get me flowers just to let me know that he's thinking about me. He will also send me sweet little ecards and we always have a date night, where we get a sitter for our 10 year old and just hang out together. To have a healthy and happy marriage each person needs to be willing to put forth the little extra effort to keep it exciting.
It takes WORK by BOTH parties to keep a relationship on track. Once one or both just settle into it and assume that it will just happen, the relationship is on trouble.


The person (above) who talked about ';time together'; and ';date night'; was bang on. The courtship must not be allowed to stop just because the ';I dos'; have been said.


But I must stress again that BOTH parties need to work at it. Sending flowers and ecards to let her know that he thinks about her all the time and still loves her is great, but she needs to reciprocate with special things too, so that he knows that she thinks about him.


All the best with that one
ive only been married 5years, and gets boring for us, i try with dressing up and playing games. the best one is pretending yyour together for the 1st time again, it does help. Plus txt dirty things to each other.
Before I got married I never realised how much of a marriage takes place privately. It's actually pretty difficult to tell what's going on in a marriage from the outside.





It's really not clear from your question whether the couple feel like the spark has gone and whether they would want your help if they do.





Unless they have actually asked for help I'd leave them to live their own lives as they see fit. If one or both has asked for help then I've found the material at http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ useful as a starting point for discussions with my husband in finding out what's important to each of us for maintaining a good marriage - although we certainly had to adapt stuff to suit us!





And that's the point really. A marriage is built by the people in it and there's not an awful lot people outside can do to influence that. Every marriage has its own rhythms and ebbs and flows and it may well be that this couple's marriage is as strong as ever, just less sparkly than it sometimes is ;-)
huh?





Your close to a married couple and they advice on how to get the spark , excitement back ? wow ok.





Suggest they start dating again , they dont have to go out for this , they can have romantic home cooked meals or order take out and set it up like a resturaunt , baths together with candles , rose petals , body massages , gawd theres so much do a google search?.