Now I talked to her the other night and she was bawling her eyes out talking to me about how she doesn’t know why she married him. She’s basically really unhappy or at least was during our phone conversation. And I just feel for her because I don’t know what to say to her.
How do you advise a friend that’s in this position? I know she loves this man, but isn’t quite in love with him as he is with her. It was more of a “safe” marriage and something culturally that her family accepted. This man is a GREAT guy and he would give her the world if he could, but I always worry that he’ll never be good enough for her no matter what. And I don’t want her to always be miserable or regret what she did.
I know sometimes the best way of being a friend is listening and not talking. But I feel odd having nothing to say about this. Because I’m really speechless. I know we all have moments in marriage because it’s not always going to be peachy and fun. Good times and bad.
Any advice on what I can say to her?? Thanks!!
Best friend regrets marriage – Advice please?
I did this same thing and thought it would pass. I thought it was too late and that I married him and it was for life. I eventually had kids with him and he eventually destroyed me.
My advice is get out now before she accidentally gets pregnant. It is not normal to have a freak out and continue to freak out. I knew all along I shouldn't have done it, but the events of the wedding and circumstances took hold and swept me into it. Best friend regrets marriage – Advice please?
Tell her you support whatever she decides and will help her get through it either way. Don't tell her what to do at all, it will bite you in the end. This is her decision.
Stay out of it , sounds like they need help , but you stay out of it, even if she is your best friend, unless u have a PhD in relationships, don't make the situation worse. let them work it out..
I don't know, but the husband should dump this woman and find someone who will actually love him before making the mistake of having kids with her.
Tell her not to ruin this guys life by acting like she wants to be his wife when she really doesn't. In the meantime she'll come up with every excuse under the sun why she's not ready to have children. Next she'll find someone else that she does want to marry and will end up having an affair with him. Finally she will work up the nerve to tell this guy she wants a divorce and break his heart because he will find out his whole marriage has been a lie.
Now years later he will struggle to trust a woman again and when he does because it's been years most of the women he meets already have kids from previous marriages and can't or don't want anymore. So he will miss out on be a father liked he always hoped because your friend was a selfish b@tch and only thought of herself.
No matter how much she thinks the truth will hurt him now, trust me it will destroy him later!
If she is unhappy, tell her to get out.....fast.
Life is too short to stay in a miserable situation. It doesn't make a difference how great ';you'; think the guy is, or how wonderful the family thinks he is.....ya'll don't have to live with him, have sex with him, or go through the daily grind of marriage with some one that makes you unhappy.
Marriage is tough enough with someone you do love and want to be with, let alone being married to someone that makes you cry on the phone to friends, telling them how unhappy you are.....
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