Losing interest in Marriage. Any advice???

I have been married for 3 years the 5th of this month and we just had a baby 16 months ago. I am 23. Got married at 20 and had a baby at 22. It just seems like I have lost interest in everything. I am constantly doing stuff for my daughter and I will continue to do that cause she means everything to me but I am just losing interest in marriage. Me and my husband fight all the time over the stupidest smallest stuff. It starts as a small argument and just ends up in a yelling fight 5 days out of the week pretty much. It sux so bad. I hate it. I cant stand being like this and i dont know how to fix it. I dont believe in getting a divorce so that is out of the question. And we are very big Christians so I dont understand why this is happening to us. We dont get along. Ive lost interest in Sex. Its like Im never satisfied and never in the mood. Im always exhausted or just not wanting to do it. I dont know what to do. Does anyone have any suggestionsLosing interest in Marriage. Any advice???
Go to your church and get some marriage and family counseling so you can quit fighting like maniacs and learn to be a family.Losing interest in Marriage. Any advice???
marriage counseling. but this sounds unfixable so a divorce might be the only solution. or perhaps you are depressed?





if marriage counseling dont work and a psychiatrist can't help you (if you are indeed depressed)......then divorce might be the only solution.
Trust me, ALOT of people feel this way sometimes. You aren't alone!





Talk with your husband. Look at the things you are fighting about. Are they worth it? Try some family counseling. I know that sounds scary but a few sessions may help you get back on track. Try it!
Give marriage counseling a try and if that doesn't help then separate for awhile and see how things go from there.
Marriage takes patience. It has its ups and downs. Go to counseling.
Hey you may want to talk to your doctor. It sounds like a little bit of post par tum depression, which can strike at any time. Life is not all it's cracked up to be. When all the pizazz and spice had gone, when real life settles upon us we have a tendency to feel, blah. Then the little fights start to jazz things up. You and your husband should get some help. Talk to a Christian counselor, they can change your life for the better and get you guys back on track
I was in a 7 year marriage similar to this and me and my husband are now seperated. We did it all counseling, church, advice. Things went well for a while but without committed hard work you kind of fall into the same slump. It depends on how much you are willing to put into it. It definately takes both people to work at it. I would say pray, for a change in yourself , a change in your husband and pray for ask God for directionl. I decided to seperate because it was too stressful for me and the older your child gets the more she sees somethings not right with mommy and daddy. Its never fair to the child. People say hide it from the child but kids arent stupid. You have to ask yourself in your heart what you really want. Keep your emotions out of it and look at reality. If you base your decision on emotion you will be miserable for the rest of your life.
Regardless of being a Christian or not-


you and your husband cannot go on


figthing this way.





It's unhealthy for you-


It's unhealthy for him-


and it is most definitely toxic


for your little one.


Have you considered marriage counseling?


If he won't go-


then at least go for yourself.


Being tired and exhausted all


of the time stems from your depression


due to the fighting between you


and your spouse.


And-


It's emotionally difficult to engage


in sexual relations with your husband


if you are feeling angry with him


all of the time.





If you still plan to somehow make


this marriage work, then you need to


get to the root cause of the problems


the two of you are having, and do


it quickly.
You sound normal to me. Probably a stay at home mom? You put everyones needs before yours if you ever think of yourself.





You probably dont go out with hubby. Probably dont have many friends to do things with.





All you do is the baby, laundry, bills, housework, cooking and church. Am I close?





Whats missing??





Your life! Your happiness. Those things that you get joy from. You've stopped them ALL.





You need breaks from the baby and you and hubby need to continue dating each other.





Find a sitter, pay her well and make a date with your husband this weekend. DO IT!





Do it every weekend if you can. Even if its only a bottle of champagne and soft music and a blanket in teh livingroom when the baby goes to sleep. Do something with your old best friend before neither of you remember how. Its still there sweetie, youre just burnt out. Very normal, typical and fixable.





Good luck.
Pray!! Satan is attacking marriages like crazy! Your best defense is to stay in the Word and prayer!!! Pray that God will help you love ur hubby.


Like in the parable of the wedding and the wine in NT, they ran out of wine (ur love) so Jesus put HIS wine in the old wineskins (us). your wine may have run out, but Jesus has an abundance of love (wine) He can pour in you! He loves you and and your hubby! Pray that He will help you will love your hubby the same way He loves him.


Go to marriage counseling at church too! God bless you! x