Needing advice on marriage?

I've been married for 16 years almost 17.My h is a really good guy and probably 1 of the most faithful men out there,we do have 2 kids.I was 19 when I got married so I was young h is 44 so big age difference.I have cheated several times n can't stop the temptation.I'm realizing more n more that I'm more attracted to younger men now n of course it helps my low selfesteem that such cute men that r even hot r finding me attractive.I'm 35 years of age n these men think I look like I'm n my 20s it feels great.Women also say I look young so I'm just feeling all good about myself at these times and I can't stop the temptation.I love my h but I'm not n love with him.I left 4 a week n h really was hurt I came back n things were really good but h just will not let me have 1 day of me time to get away from the same ol same ol routine.He suspects I've cheated but I denied it n h kinda left it alone.I keep thinking about divorce n actually called n made appt. with lawyer n backed out because it scares me to death to think that I might be lonely,that what if I can't find a guy that I really want to b with 4ever.I'm a terrible person I do realize that but I don't consider myself a tramp I'm just going through a change n my life that I don't understand 4 the fact I have a good h so why the hell such feelings of not being happy.The age difference never bothered me b4 so why all of a sudden does it bother me now.I still think h is handsome.I thoght about counseling but to b honest I talked to counseler b4 4 depression at 1 time n it helped 4 a while then it goes right back to same thing.I don't think it will help 4 long term.Anybody been through this or any advice will be of great thanks.Sorry so long.Needing advice on marriage?
My only advise is this. If it is clear that you want something else then file for divorce and then cat about with any men you like. It is not fair of you to treat him like this. I would confess what I had done and then talk with your husband about it.





Your husband deserves to be with a wife that is attracted to him, that is faithful to him, that does honor him with respect and mutual arousal. He has the right to find that for himself just as you have sought out what you wanted.





You can't have your cake and eat it too. You are not 19 now, so grow up and clean up your mess.Needing advice on marriage?
From what you have said, You are one of the reasons men have issues with commitments. I think that you need to file for divorce as soon as possible , so thjat you and this great man can be happy with out each other.
if your not sexually attracted to him, dont tell him that because it will crush him, but leave him. just tell him you arent happy and things arent working out.





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stop doing what you are doing until you leave him
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You're funny. I think you should just keep doing it like you're doing it. Can you teach me how to get side action with younger women?
Go to a marriage counseling to fix your marriage.


Go to a therapist to at least curb those urges that you know hurt your marriage.


Go to a doctor maybe your husband has some problems down there that's why your not satisfied sexually.
maybe you should be honest with him and decide on:


open marriage, or


divorce





you don't respect him so why continue to lie to him???
No doubt it took courage for you to admit this on Answers, so I give you credit for that.





That said, I'm going to give you my honest answer. You chose to have two children with your husband. They didn't ask to be brought into the world, you made them. Now that your children are in your life, I think you should stay faithful to your husband and family until your children are adults and then follow your sexual dreams.





Children are a responsibility. You are responsible for them.
8 years age difference is not a lot, so that can not be the issue. Finding your hubby attractive is a state of mind which you are having a lot of trouble with it would seem. If you have been for counseling and it helped and then went back to the way it was for depression then it means that they did not get to the route cause of the problem...surprise, suprise. So find a good ccounselorand get your a into g and get your life sorted out. I have been thru this and a lot more and my aattitudeis what made the biggest ddifferenceand my absolute 100 percent desire to change. Good Luck!
Stop playing these game with your husband and yourself. Sometime people just out grown one another and that is what has happen here. But what you really need to do is be up front with your husband an let him no what is going on and ask for a divorce. Because he needs to be with someone who is going to love him and treat him right and right now your not the one. That way you can live your life without feeling guilty. But here is something for you. The grass might seem greener on the other side but it never is. Don't wine up alone and gray because you was chasing a fantasy.
The first thing you should do is get a good grip on the truth. The truth is this is not a change in your life you are a tramp! You are a liar and a cheat. You have no self control which is pathetic!





What you should do is admit to yourself you are a tramp. The tell your husband the truth that you are a tramp then get a divorce. At least then you will have done an honest thing. Your husband deserves better than you and you deserve whatever happens to you.
If you want to make the marriage work there are many self-help programs available. I would recommended The Us Factor by Joseph Melnick. He offers the program on a free trial basis and also has a free email newsletter with many relationship tips. It's worth checking out.
You will lose your husband if you don't stop this behavior. You already hurt him but the only thing is that he doesn't know. Just stop it and seek a marriage counselor to help you. Also, plead with your husband for your own personal time, tell him you need it. Attraction is a tricky thing because it's always present when someone is new but it fades away with time so whomever you decide to be with, you'll face the same challenges you're currently facing now. Force yourself to think about your husband sexually, fantasize with him on your mind. What if he tries viagra or cialis to enhance his performance? Maybe that'll get you excited about sex again. Remember to see a doctor before he starts taking that because it does have side effects. Try, you must try everything before you split with this man because a good man is hard to find.