Need motherhood and marriage advice =(?

Well, i'm a young woman (21) in a stable relationship. I know i might be too young but lately i have been having baby fever, everywhere i go i see babies and pregnant women. I can't stop the feeling of wanting to be a mom, i feel ready for it and have knowledge about raising kids (i raised both of my siblings). I've talked about having kids to my partner but he doesn't want to have any kids or get married ever (he had a bad previous marriage). It breaks my heart thinking that i won't be able to refer to him as ';my husband'; or have his kids. I'm not pushing the issue because i don't want to scare him or make him mad. But i really want to become a mother within the next few years i just don't know how to approach it or tell him exactly how i feel about having a baby.





Any good advice is appreciated.Need motherhood and marriage advice =(?
he has true feelings and you shouldn't force him because of your desire. what you are feeling is normal. just remember that you need to have a stable income. give it some time yet. if you really desire a child and with him the timing will be what both of you want.


i'm glad you say in a few years that a good sign that you really are thinking of your needs and the future for a child. what i did when this hit me and the timing wasn't right I offered to watch my friend child over night. this gave me a wake up call. make sure this child is an infant so you can see how getting up in the middle of the night the demands of day and night feeding changes etc. i'm sure they would welcome a day and night away.Need motherhood and marriage advice =(?
Find someone else.


He has been honest with you, which is good, at least he didn't make it seem like he ';might'; later and then just string you along.


However, knowing how he feels, and knowing what you want, you two are not compatible. Best to find someone who wants the same things in life. :)
Honey you probablay will need to move on if you guys don't want the same thing, him been scare from a previous relationship might not be all that true, I am not accusing him a lying or anything it just that man do come up with excuses when they don't want something


but my advise is don't force the issue or you will end up been a single parent also you should not be with someone that made you afraid of express your feeling fearing of scaring him or getting him mad


you are 21 you need to be with someone that will listen to you and their is a future, this person sound selfish if you don't move on now than you are wasting the best years of your life where you can be laughing and making plans for your future with someone that truly care for you
If you really want a marriage and kids and you're sure he really doesn't ever want to get married or have kids ever again, you might have to move on to someone else who shares your aspirations. The relationship would be headed to a dead end anyway.


My advice is - sit him down and discuss the issue of marriage and children. Don't set timetables but at least assure yourself its a possibility. Let him know how much it means to you and see what happens. If he says ';never'; to both, walk away.
It's okay to let your partner know exactly what you want for your life in the long-term. If you want a husband and children some day, tell him. Tell him that you're not asking him for these things right now, but if he doesn't want to be married or have kids by the time you're 24 (or whatever age you desire) then you'll have to leave him. This is your life, and it's okay to tell people what you want for your life. It's normal and healthy to talk about your hopes and dreams with your partner. If you aren't comfortable having this discussion with him, then maybe you should reconsider if he's really the right guy for you.





Good luck to you.
If you really want to be married and have children, then you will not have a good life with this man. You approach him and tell him that you wish to get married and have children, and if he doesn't think he wants to do that then you need to leave and start dating someone that wants the same things that you do. If you are afraid of discussing anything with a person that you want to spend the rest of you life with, then they are not the right one for you. You are young but don't waste your life with someone that will not be able to make your dreams come true.
I truly believe that there is more than one person that you can fall in love with. It is perfectly normal to want to have children. It is a bit unreasonable for ';him'; to expect you not to. He however has made it clear that he doesn't want kids with you. You have to decide if you really want to wake up one day with a man you may or may not feel the same way about and realize you have lost the chance to be a mother. I think you should find someone to love that has the same dreams for their future. You will have a much better chance of staying together. BTW - you are only 21. You have 5-10 years before you have to seriously worry about this.