Need advice about marriage.?

If you decide you want marriage counseling how would you bring up the idea to your spouse?I have brought up marriage counseling in the past but he wasn't very receptive of the idea and told me that our relationship was NOONEs business.Things got better for a little while but only because I just berried the problems deep inside me to appease him. Now that they have resurfaced I want to get them worked out before something bad happens again.I had an affair from about six months out of our seven year relationship about three years ago, because I wasn't getting the attention that I needed from him and he was choosing to look at porn before I got home from work instead of waiting for me to get home.When the affair stopped I thought everything would be ok.I stopped having sex with him completely,I didn't sleep in the same bed with him the last three months of the affair and I didn't kiss him the problems are different now but the new problems bring back the old feelings of discontentmentNeed advice about marriage.?
It is sad that he sees no problem with the relationship.





Seriously, if he doesn't go, YOU go and get the help you needNeed advice about marriage.?
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Believe it or not, but deep inside your husband does not think he is doing anything wrong. He is typical of a guy who has learn-ed that men are there only to provide for their families. To him, he is doing what he is expected to do, and spending time with you and his daughter is not one of them. This must be hurtful for you and this can only lead to resentment on your part. Your husband needs to get himself into counselling as he needs someone other than you to intervene and show him that what he is doing is putting more and more distance between the both of you and his daughter. This is not good. For him to rather watch porn than spend time with you is an indication of his self serving persona. Since he does not see or is not willing to see this as a problem and is content with pretending there is no problem and expecting you to bury them deep inside is like sweeping problems under the carpet, not caring how you feel. Most men respond to conflict this way, but most sooner or later show concern. Your husband is refusing to see or even to care there is a problem. The only solution is for him to get professional help to set him on the right path or this marriage is headed for a divorce. You must demand he gets into counselling or decide to live this way the rest of your life or leave. Good luck to you!