Question about relationship and/or marriage. Any advice please?

I'm uncomfortable about the thought of being in a relationship or planning marriage. It's just too distracting for my mind. I turned down many proposals due to this reason. but I see others seemingly lead a normal life doing their daily chores without feelin distracted by the thought of their boyfriend/girlfriend. How do I do that :)Question about relationship and/or marriage. Any advice please?
Your question is confusing to me, because I don't understand how you could have gotten proposals without being in relationships. So, I'm going with the theory that you bail on your relationships when they get serious.





It sounds to me like you have a major fear of commitment, which is not all that uncommon. You could try writing down the names of those that you dated for any real length of time. Then list one by one why those relationships did not work for you. List not only the major ';break up'; item but the sorts of things that built up to it. I.E. - incompatible schedules, families, faiths - whatever may have played a role.





Then you look back over your list. If you repeatedly see things like the person made you feel suffocated or trapped no matter what relationship you are talking about then the issue is with you. Maybe you just aren't ready to share your life with someone else. You may never be - not everyone gets married.





You could try looking into your life to see what might make you feel the way you do. Relationships you've seen go bad, the fact you are having lots of fun being single - whatever. Just get in touch with where your feelings stem from. You may find the issue goes away - or you may become content with the status quo.Question about relationship and/or marriage. Any advice please?
it could be because they were not the right person. when you are sure, your calm (or excited) about the whole thing.


When you find your star, there should be a contempt feeling. and when you think of them through the day, it will not over-rule your mind because you would have a strong feeling that they will be there physically in a few hours
At the beginning of a relationship, because the feelings are new and intense, it does sometimes interfere with the ability to stay focused on other things.





However, as both partners settle in, things become more routine, and you become used to the emotions. It becomes more normal to have these in the background and you can once again focus on daily tasks.





I am surprised that you turned down proposals because of this. Are you sure that you are not afraid of strong emotional ties, or was it because the necessary feelings of love and affection were not present?





I would recommend not to marry someone that you do not already have intense feelings for.
Marriage is not something that one should go into while feeling uncomfortable about it. But it does have its advantages; in time, you may find someone about whom you can say, This would work, and feel like going for it.
You never said what age you are. But you obviously have a fear of commitment. Why ARE you thinking of all that, why don't you just go on with you life meeting people and so on and when the time comes with the rite person you know you will be ready for it.