Marriage advice that has to do with money!!!?

ok so heres the story(short )





ok my husband has issues with paying bills so almost all of them are extrmely late and he doesnt write anything down in the checkbook and just assumes we have more than we do. ok so i keep telling him i want to take over but he never lets me...he ends up paying things and we fight about it and everything else...THEN when he overdrafts the checkbook YET AGAIN he says well why the hell havnt u taken over like you wanted too!!





ok so now he is getting his work bonus tomorrow and wants to buy a WII, i want to catch bills up with the bonus and then buy a wii with our tax returns( we are only waiting for one more w2) so he would only have to wait a couple days for a WII!


am i right or wrong??Marriage advice that has to do with money!!!?
You are totally right. Your husband is immature and needs to grow up. Lucky enough for me my husband is anal retentive with bills and being on time, but he is also a money hog and likes to know where every cent goes, psssh. You should insist that the bonus money go into the bill fund. Tax money is play money. Its so sickening though, what is he, 5? You have to act like his mother you poor girl. Give him an *** kicking and take charge!Marriage advice that has to do with money!!!?
You're right. Tell him what should be first, and what should be second. Be very clear, do not fight, do not yell at him. Once you finish talk, walk away, end of the conversation. Let him think about. He needs to learn to make responsible choices. Family finances is a matter of both, not just him.


You can learn how to take more power in your relationship from a book called Taking Power in an Abusive Relationship by Agata Campos.
i use to have that problem, i told my wife to take over the bills and now they are smooth. she tells me to pay online what we need to pay but she manages the budget. sound like his money is his money. he does not want to catch up on bills, but wants to buy a WII. I guess the tax money will be for bills or does he have plans for those also. take over and shut him the hell up.
I think you should use the money to go and meet with a financial adviser - it couldn't hurt! Neither of us are great with money and the financial planner helps keep us both on track...we meet once a year to touch base.
Tell him no Wii until ALL bills are paid and he can prove it.
You are right.


If you are behind on bills they should come first, before toys. My bf is always scraping by and has thousands in debt. We live together and I have been paying for all of the living expenses for 4 months (he got laid off but has been back to work for over a month). He got some unexpected money for unemployment insurance and he wants to buy a mtn bike, yet he hasn't given me a single dollar for 4 months. If he comes home with that bike, he's gone.


Take over the finances. Don't take no for an answer. Now is not the time to get behind on bills.