Marriage advice I got a mooma boy who keeps going back...?

My husband and I have been seeing a marriage counsler, we are trying to work on our marriage. I find that my mother in law is a big part of why we fight. My husband is a mommas boy. Since counseling he has been trying to not see her everyday, 3 times a day. He was adviced not to get her involved in our marriage. We just had a fight this morning and first thing he digs for are his keys, he tryed to leave to his moms, so I grabed the keys away from him. I would like him to stay here and deal with it, instead of running away to his mommys. He calls his mom and 4 min. later she honks and brings him spare keys, and he hasn't been back. I feel like I'm fighting a loosing battle. I called him on his cell and he won't answer.I feel like counsleing has been a waste, how long does it take to start working? Am I fighting a loosing battle if he's breaking all the rules?? I am just feeling like I'm drained. Any advice?Marriage advice I got a mooma boy who keeps going back...?
This is not a healthy relationship or marriage. I'm glad you've sought help, and I'm sorry it's not working out.





Only you can know if this situation may be resolved in time. Can you bring this situation up during the next session? Let the counsler know how you feel. DO NOT give an ultimatum to leave unless you REALLY intend to follow through.





I don't know all the details surrounding this problem, but if you guys are not too far into it (meaning no kids or real estate), but getting out now may be an option to consider. It doesn't look like he's ready for marriage since he's running off to momma. YOU are his family now and owes it to you to resolve his problems with you and not air his dirty laundry to others...mom included.





If you don't consider leaving, do consider how you will deal with this situation for the rest of your life. It will likely become the norm reaction he has during any tiff you guys have. Is this something you can live with? Again, only you have the answer to that.





Don't call him again. Instead, spend this alone time figuring out what you want out of this marriage and from your life. Think long term, and think realistic. Choose a path, and follow it.





Good luck and be strong.Marriage advice I got a mooma boy who keeps going back...?
Talk to the marriage counselor about it because if he is in counseling, he shouldn't be talking about the issues with his mother. If he persists, then you may have to offer him an alternative to choose between you and his mom. The marriage counselor can probably convey the message very clearly so that you don't look like the person forcing the decision
It's really good that you've been going to counseling - my husband refuses... So, be glad. Remember that it took him many years to create the habit of running to his mother and the problem isn't going to cease over night. When he returns just tell him you and he can talk about this with the counselor because you don't want to fight with him. If you still care for him then work on it. Baby steps!!! I wish the two of you luck.
I'm married to a mama's boy as well and we live in the same yard. Not a fun situation. Things are better now that he is older and not so dependent on his parents. However, he still lets then make him feel guilty. Your situation sounds a little more complicated than mine, so I wouldn't recommend waiting around for him to grow up. If he is breaking the rules of counseling it shows that he is not taking your issues seriously. He is maybe too young to be in a marriage. Good luck.