What advice do you give someone in a unhappy marriage?

I have a good friend who has been married for 22 years... he has two kids... and his family needs him..but he's not happy...his wife and him fight... he drinks...and often doesn't want to be home...





They've done therapy...separated...got back together...and still in the same boat...





I dont know what kind of advice to give him or what to say...he feels like a awful person...but it's not fair for him to stay if he's not happy...Help...What advice do you give someone in a unhappy marriage?
Just pick up and go, life is too short to be un happyWhat advice do you give someone in a unhappy marriage?
There was a time that they were happy, they have to sit and communicate to one another what has chnaged in them together and apart. Try to spark that old flame. he needs to speak with her and not as much with you. He needs to stop drinking and her fighting with him long enough to have a good conversation. You need to back off, he could be using you as a crutch or a goal.
I try never to give advice unless asked, it's meddling.





If asked, my advice is ';Do what will make you happy in the long run.';





If children are involved, I add that while divorce is hard on children, living with angry hateful parents is harder.
See in a relationship you have to put gas on the fire make it spark,but they have been married that long, and now they are not happy what in the world could have went wrong. If i be married for that long i am just going to stay because it don,t make no scene to break up.
I have no advice for him. My advice to you would be to mind your own business and stay out of other peoples marriage issues. Don't allow him to pull you into his baggage. What isn't fair is that he's sharing this with you and not his wife.
My advice would be for him to talk to the one person it can make a difference to talk to his wife. What good does it do to talk to someone who has nothing to do with the marriage it is basically falling on deaf ears.
Just tell him that divorce is an option. A lot of people don't believe in divorce because of their religion or whatever. But I believe that if nothing else works, then you're better off not stuck in a miserable marriage.
I would advise him to leave. It sounds as though this marriage has been on it's knees for some time and efforts to improve it have failed. It's time to close the book.
It sounds to me like you want him your self