My marriage worries me. I need advice on what to do to fix a slump.?

I have been married almost 10 years, have two children but I have been unhappy for a few years now. We have communication problems because he feels that he can't talk to me. We argue and I feel better when he is not around. I have to be there for my kids and I get down and can't function like a parent when we are together. Help?My marriage worries me. I need advice on what to do to fix a slump.?
It sounds like you are between a rock and a hard place. More than likely you are overwhelmed with the household chores and he has it made because you do everything for him. What started out as you doing these things out of love has now put you over a barrel because he expects them of you. Now you feel that he takes you for granted(he probably does) and you resent that. Am I close?





Sit him down and tell him how you feel. Tell him that things have to change....POST HASTE Tell him how that many times when couples with children get divorced the father only gets to see his children at best 50% of the time as opposed to them being with him all the time now. Take a few minutes out of your day to pray about your situation and ask him to pray with you. Ask God to open your heart to understand what it's gonna take to fix your problem. Have some faith and you will see results. Be patient because this relationship didn't derail over night and it won't be corrected in a night.





God Bless youMy marriage worries me. I need advice on what to do to fix a slump.?
My wife and I have been in the same boat, married over 12 years. I think we've been in trouble mode for at least 5 years.





From my male perspective, almost all of my unhappiness is from lack of sex and affection. That's it, nothing else. It would take my wife about 30 minutes per week in total to take me from 1 to 8 on the happiness scale, yet she will not or cannot for reasons I cannot understand.





When I ask her what I can do to help her or to help the situation, she can't come up with anything. We've finally gone to counseling and it's helping a little, but the bad times are now a memory and lots has been damaged.





I know it's hard to be a mother but when the man is honestly trying and the woman can't show any physical affection, I blame it on her. I hope that someday in heaven someone will explain this to me.
Sounds to me like you need a third party to help you two learn to communicate. It sounds like you're blaming your husband because he feels he can't talk to you but what is it that you do that makes him feel that way? It's most that there is blame on both sides but neither of you may be willing to recognize it and take responsibility for it. A counselor of some sort will help you work that out.
Check and see if your job has an EAP. They provide free counseling. If they dont tell them to look into the EAP my job has which is www.firstsuneap.com





They were phenominal in getting my husband and I the help we needed and getting us back on track. TheY find the counseor for you, pay for the sessions, and everything. Plus if things do go astray, they have free legal help.





Dont rely on things to get better by themself. TAKE ACTION. GET YOUR MARRIAGE BACK!
Get some marriage counseling. It is very easy to let the relationship you have together go by the wayside when you have children. You obviously don't spend any time just being a couple, you really need to.
I agree your kids cannot be around that it is too much for them too see there mother down and feeling sad. It is not good for you either. Hurtting that deeply and without communication your lost.
leave. Your children will have a happier childhood if they don't have to be in a house with that kind of vibe.