Need marriage advice.......Should I stay married?

I have been married for two years. I love my husband very much. He has been physically abusive since four months after we got married. I know i'm not easy to live with, but i don't physically hurt him in any way. Their is no cheating going on between us. My husband is like a teddy bear most of the time, but he exploads when arguments get heated. He hits me every week, and its just getting worse and worse. He always says he is sorry, and has agreed to take anger managment classes. We are going to start marriage counseling, but this has been going on for nearly two years. Should I call it quits or should i try and stay.Need marriage advice.......Should I stay married?
I would say separate while you are both going to counseling and he is attending anger management courses. If you feel like all is better and you want to try it again after counseling, then get back together. I think that staying away is the best thing. It sounds like you are already working on it to save your marriage.





I will pray for you. You do not deserve to be hit. Hugs to you.Need marriage advice.......Should I stay married?
Whether or not you decide to stay with him, he needs professional help now. You are in danger, you need to move out until he is in treatment and able to control his anger issues.





I don't care what he tells you after he abuses you, he isn't going to change unless he gets help. His abuse is getting worse and your life is in danger.





No one deserves to be abused either physically or mentally. Pack up your things and get out now. You need to find some professional counseling for yourself.





I wish you the best, good luck.
No real men would hit a woman! i know its hard just to get out like this because you always hope.but try counceling and anger managment classes see how it goes.if he still hits you than get out.but honestly 99% im sure he will.im sure you heard it once a cheater always a cheater.ones he hit you he will hit you again! but of course everyone deservs a second chance in life so you might as well give him this chance.but make sure it will only be one chance.not one to many.
Don't take that crap! You desereve much better! Even if you are not easy to live with that is NO excuse to physically hurt you. You have been putting up with this too long. It's good that he is going to take some classes but you should definitly leave him. He needs to learn how to deal with his anger before he should ever be in a relationship let alone marriage. LEAVE! Before it's to late. Good luck.
Well, it depends. If you believe he is truly able to change, then by all means, stay. But, if you believe it will just become a continuous thing, then I think you should explain to him just why you're leaving, and move out for a while. Then, wait. If he comes around with a fresher start to him, then move back in. But if not, divorce would be your only option.
Apparently u have TRIED for 2 years but he has not. In most abusive cases it olny gets worst like u have stated. There is no excuse for the abusive or even a reason for u to stick around!!! I'm guessing that ur selfesteem must b pretty low if u haven't left yet. U putting the blame on urself is just crazy, marriage is a 2 way street. And remember, they don't know how good they have it until it's gone!!!
If you are both going to go to counseling and he does his classes your marriage might have a chance. I do think you should find a safe place to stay until all of this is resolved though. NO ONE has the right to abuse their spouse or significant other. Protect yourself first and foremost.
Wow... I would suggest talking to someone .. a doctor or a counsler ... I was married as well... However my husband wasnt abusive in anyway he just couldnt keep his ';willy'; in his pants .. so i called it quits ... we were young... im not sure how old you are or if you have kids... i would say if no kids are involved think about getting out of it before it gets worse.. I wish you lots of luck ... :O(
It doesn't matter that he tells you he is sorry. Someone who hits you and causes that much pain on you, should not be in your life. I know you love him, but you need to get out. All the signs are there....he has a anger issue obviously. You don't want to end up dead.
well the being hit weekly is not good, but willing to get counseling is a good thing. If you both truly do love each other and want to work it out then I think you should have counseling but shouldn't be together until you work this out and get the anger and violence under control
That depends on whether you come to the conclusion that the behavior your seeing is likely to change. On the one hand, two years is pretty short time to give up. On the other hand, behavior like this is hard to change. I'd rely on your counselor to help you with that assessment.
Walk away now and don't come back until a licensed professional deems he is cured. Even then, be cautious. Go for counseling for yourself to address the personal reasons why you have stayed in such a dangerous situation all this time. Good luck.
Most men don't change... My sister had been married to an abusive man for almost 11 years now, he tells her the same thing you said your husband tells you... I'm going to tell you like I tell her, what if he gets physical and doesn't stop.........
Only you can answer your question because you will have to live with the choice you make.I would get help it is not right for anyone to hit another person.once it starts a lot of times it only gets worse
GET OUT. This is not a relationship. If he was good for you he would NEVER hit you. Call it quits because the longer you stay the harder it will be for you to leave.
he needs anger management classes as well as counseling. Give him a chance this is learned behavior he probably learned in childhood. People can change if they want to.
no way. how can he mean he's sorry if he does it again?


no abusive relationships will ever work.


give up, it will be hard.. but it's best for you. what happens when it gets even worst?


good luck.
Leave him NOW .There is no way you should put up with that kind of **** . Get out while you can before he dose something worse than a few slaps
physical abuse is never good - abuse of any kind is never good -





if he was sorry he would not have to apologize again - he wouldn't do it again -





i think you need to go -
Time to leave, while you still think it's his fault and not yours.
leave, hitting never stops. i would have given him a little Gun powder and Lead the first time it happened.
no


give up


before he seriously hurts you





please hun


GET OUT


x
You have no kids with this guy and that is a big plus. You need to get the hell away from him asap. He will never change his ways and is quick to resort to physical abuse to get control over you. He sounds like a very dangerous person that already had some major issues before you and him got involved with each other. There is an old saying '; the first time you get bit by the dog is an accident, but the second time you get bit is your own fault.'; This being said, you know what will continue to happen if you stay in this relationship. HE WILL NEVER STOP
You are in physical danger and subjecting yourself to injury every week and you admit the danger is accelerating -- which it always does in an abusive relationship. Your husband will never feel powerful enough, each time he has to ramp up the injury to you in order to feel satisfaction. Do you realize that a woman has more risk of dying when in an abusive relationship than when in a car or an airplane?





Your life is in danger. You may not see it now, but next month, next week, next year things will change. You cannot wait.





The behavior is sick and you are subjecting yourself to serious emotional and physical danger if you stay one minute longer.





Call your local women's crisis line tomorrow morning and talk about what you've said here. You should be able to get a secure and safe place to live for now.





If he hits you or threatens you again, leave immediately and call the police. If you can't leave, please put 911 on your speed dial and use it! You are in serious danger but you obviously don't see it that way, ';I know I'm not easy to live with...'; is not an excuse to for anyone to hurt you. Please understand this.





Once you have a safe place to stay, then begin to work why you have become so attached to someone who is hurting you. Would you put your hand over a flame over and over again if the flame said later it was sorry and it loved you? NO! Of course you wouldn't and anyone who would would be called insane.





Putting up with abuse is a form of insanity. Please get yourself well, pack your bags and leave immediately.





Most batterers never change their behavior once they are into adulthood.





Also understand that being beat-up is too high a price to pay for having a ';teddy bear most of the time';. There are plenty of men who wish they had a women who would treat them well and who will do the same in return. But you must learn how to protect yourself from predators first.





Good luck, be safe.
People who like to control people use the tactic of saying that they do not mean it, that they want forgiveness and will make arrangements to do something about it.





It is lie.





I suggest that you get help from someone, call the police, family and friends, have weapons to defend your self with, create big bolts on the doors and windows and keep him out.





Get a dictophone to record any abusive events, including threats which must be despacted to the police.


Check that it is working with the tape etc.





DO NOT marry, stay friends or even go near him!





****UPDATE****





http://www.allaboutlifechallenges.org/sp…


http://www.helpguide.org/mental/domestic…


http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Domestic_ab…





Understand that the nature of evil is to use propaganda and lies to control another, take make victims a slave to them.


It will appear that they are mis-understood, but this is a distraction.


Love means to care and protect, it is a fundamental intension.


To protect is what love is, this person is what love is not.


He is your enermy and you must not be trapped by him.
Move out immediately to a place on your own and if you cannot then stay with friends or relatives until you can get a place. Make it clear to him that you want the marriage to work but until he gets help from anger managment classes and you see a marriage counsellor together it is not an option for you to remain with him as things are.


Do not tell him you are moving out - just do it - in case he gets violent at you - also get the help and support of a relative or friend to help you move out.


This should make him come to his senses and get help.


If he appears non-violent when you have moved out this does not mean that he won't start again when you move back in - he may even be worse - so unless he has got help do not move back in.


You are blaming yourself - do not do this! It is not you!!!


Good luck - but remember - if he does not get help do not go back!
well i hope the anger management classes and marriage counseling work for u both, but do you want to resign yourself to a life like this for the next how many years, if not do the right thing and end this awful marriage