Christian Marriage Advice?

I am need of christian marriage advice. My wife and I have been apart going on 4 months, she left by her choice and moved out the house. There was no physical or emontional abuse, she left because she feels that she does not know who she is a person. She tells me she loves me but is no longer in love me. I still care and love her, but at same time, it hard when she does not share the same feelings. I told her I would like to work on the marriage, but she cannot decide what she wants. It is hard living in this limbo state, I am keeping my self busy with work, church, prayer, and taking care of child. My question, do I wait for her to make a decision to end it or make it work. Or do I need to make a decision?Christian Marriage Advice?
I have been where you are before in my life also. I know the pain that this is causing your because you still think you love your wife. Not all situations are the same. My wife was planning her divorce and cheating on me during this time. I am not saying this is the case for you , but your need to be aware this could be going on. Make sure that you have support around you as you go through this. DO NOT isolate yourself from family and friends you may need them. If depression sets in get help quickly before you decide to just curl up in a ball and want to die. Pray to the Lord and stay in the word. Listen to your wife as she speaks, so you can possibly fix whats broken in your marriage. Remember God will never leave you nor forsake you. No matter what happens you will come through this with the Lords help. I am remarried now and have never been happier. If you need to talk write me I will try to help you if I can. It may seen like the worst of times , but it can be the best of times when you come through it all. God bless you my friend.Christian Marriage Advice?
If she has gone off by herself, she will not find her answer. She needs to interact with you and others to get this resolved. Since he is obviously indecisive, she will need the advise and counseling of your pastor, who should already be involved with this. The family unit in Christ is the foundation for the church. Contact your pastor and ask him to help in an active and ongoing way. A one time meeting is not adequate. She should be talking to the pastor on a weekly basis. Also, maybe she could benefit by talking to the pastor's wife. Get them involved. That is their job.
If she is unwilling to do anything to repair your marriage then there is no marriage to repair. You need to set a deadline with her, let her know you cannot go on like this and you will be filling for divorce.
She's cheating that's why she left you.
When you ask whether or not you ';need to make a decision,'; that seems to imply that you would consider divorcing her. Please don't. Read 1 Corinthians, chapter 7 . . . and keep praying for her, praying for your family, and waiting on God in faith.





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When y'all got married you both took a vow that said for better or for worse. If there are no Biblical reasons for a divorce then you need to do all that you can to save the marriage.


Maybe she needs to have some couseling to find out why she feels that way.


A lot of times people think that couseling is just someone telling you what you are doing wrong, but in actuality they can help you to get to the root cause of the problem and offer up ways of working through those issues.





Maybe it's something that happened to her in the past and she has suppressed it.





I would definitely seek cousel, but the best couseling comes from laying all of you at the alter and seeking after the Lord.





Don't necessarily pray for her to change, but ask God what it is in you that needs to change.
I'd advise you to regard yourself as committed, at least until she makes a decision. I'd also advise you to make clear to her that that is what you are doing; it might help her to see what she is doing to you in a different light.





Christian marriage is more than just a ';being in love'; thing; it sounds as though she has lost the rosy glow of a fresh love and forgotten there is supposed to be more. (By the way, you'd be surprised how easily that feeling can come back, and hang around, if you don't try to make it the basis of the marriage.)





Here's C.S. Lewis, in the ';Christian Marriage'; chapter of ';Mere Christianity';:





The idea that ';being in love'; is the only reason for remaining married really leaves no room for marriage as a contract or promise at all. If love is the whole thing, then the promise can add nothing; and if it adds nothing, then it should not be made. The curious thing is that lovers themselves, while they remain really in love, know this better than those who talk about love.
If you are a Christian, and you are a praying man, keep praying. Do your job as a father, and as a child of God. I think you do need to wait and find out what she wants to do.





Is your wife a Christian? Could she just be going through a phase where her spirituality and walk with God are not strong? Not ';in love'; is not a good enough reason to divorce,


as I'm sure you know.





If you both love God, and each other, there is no reason why you cannot fix what is wrong in your relationship. Not that it won't be awful to go through, but here's the deal- whatever is wrong with your wife, or you for that matter, right now, will NOT go away because you are no longer married.





I've seen that most Christian marriage problems are problems that have to do more with your relationship with Christ, and your commitment to him, AND your joint committing of the life that is your relationship to to HIM.





Marriage creates another being; you are both separate people, but together you are a whole other person. That person, that relationship, needs to be constantly nurtured. Constantly fed. Ask your wife if she has the faith and strength to put your lives in God's hands, and then pray without ceasing. And forsake all others above each other.





May the Lord bless your efforts.
just keep praying and believing
What kind of decision is it you think you need to make?





You have invested so much already into this relationship.





When someone is troubled you need to not beg and plead with them or be nice to them. You need to tell them in no uncertain terms that you find this unacceptable and that she is risking your entire future together. Tell her you would support her to hire a Christian Life Coach or Therapist to find herself, but that you would prefer she do so within the marriage and not use the marriage as the excuse for the problem. You need to let her know that she will not have full access to you emotionally or physically while choosing to live apart. Then stick to your guns.





Rather than ';living in limbo'; and ';waiting for her to decide';, by doing what I have suggested, you are drawing a line in the sand. She cannot have her cake and eat it too. She cannot expect you will wait around and she needs to know that. But you can tell her when and if she is ready to discuss REAL solutions you will be available for a meeting.





With any hope and with prayer, she will see her loss and possible consequences quickly and choose to make changes quicker than if you ';go along'; with her manipulation.





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hard to say...you know her more than we do....





one should always make an attempt to save ones marriage


but that takes two people giving it a try.





i'd say give it to the Lord and see what happens.
You need to make a decision about where your life needs to go.
That is a tough one. I would say since it sounds like you have been waiting on her for a while that it is time to take the stand and make one for the both of you.
waiting for someone else to make the decisions that determine the course of your life is ill advised
Make a decision for yourself, it seems you already have the answer, she already said she isn't in love with you anymore. Thats your cue. Do something about it, before you waste more time with this gal.