Marriage Advice, Please Help!?

Okay so me and my boyfriend got married 2 months after I graduated from highschool. I was 18, and he was 20. He's an amazing guy, and i still care about him a lot!! Now, I just feel that maybe I was too young and I don't feel the same way. I told him how I felt, and it broke his heart. I don't know what I should do. He loves me, I know he does, but should I stay if I'm not happy. I just feel like I was too young to know what I was gettin myself into. I'm so confused and I don't want to hurt him AT ALL, but should I do what's best for me. Now I'm 20 and in school, and I just want to be young!! PLEASE SOMEONE HELP! I feel terrible about breaking his heart, because he has been there for me, but i don't know if I feel the same way about him anymore. : (Marriage Advice, Please Help!?
You're young! Its happens! Don't stay in the marriage, if its not for you. You will break his heart, but you are also doing what is best for both of you. If you don't love him like you should, letting him go to find a girl who will, is better for you both.Marriage Advice, Please Help!?
You're confusing yourself by telling yourself unreasonable things about the meaning of marriage. You say you were ';too young,'; but too young for what? What do you want to do, besides date other people, that marriage prohibits you from doing? If you want to be young, then BE young! You can be young and be married. I suspect you would feel a lot happier if you simply became more assertive with your husband about fulfilling your needs.
don't panic- tell him what you feel - being honest about that to him proves that you care about him and his feelings..I'm sure he knows this. Suggest a trial separation..let him know that it is okay for him to play the field (sometimes that can heal a wounded ego) don't consider divorce until you two have been apart for a little while and you both can experience yourselves alone. good luck
You want to be young or you want to have experiences with other guys? You can go out and have fun and party and be young even if you're married. I don't think you're in love with your husband anymore, and if that's the case you shouldn't be married.
I think you are just getting bored. It seems really mean of you to treat someone like that. You probably won't find another nice guy for a long time. Why don't you take a break and see other people, while keeping contact open throughout. Share your experiences with each other. That way you won't divorce the best thing that's going to happen to you, but you can see if your missing anything else.
yes this sucks... but your very young and should not have got into this.





if you have kids this make thing much worst, I would say if there are kids you made a commitment you need to work it out. If you do not have kids get out now, it will hurt but it will also heal. and do not rush into a something so life time.
Well ofcourse you should leave!! And the next time you get married, wait a while before you do. That way you'll know whenther it's the right think or not. That way also he will be able to move on with his life and find someone that truely loves and cares for him.
I think you need to grow up! You see other children playing and you wont to come out and play! You have a man that Loves you and you hurt him and all you can think about is You! You my friend is a Baby and your guy should get out and let you play!
Don't stay in a marriage if you are not happy. Simple as that. Everything aside, if you are not happy why continue to live this life. Life is too short to be unhappy.
You should not stay in the marriage if you feel that way. It's not fair to you or to him. You both deserve to feel happy. The sooner you talk about it and open up the better.
Do you know why you feel that way? Maybe with a lot of work the two of you can grow close again.
You made the committment, deal with it.
You need to do what's best for you! If you aren't completely happy with your life right now, you need to change it!
There is no easy way out. you made your bed now sleep in it.



I will agree you were to immature to marry at 18 but you did it so now you have to make an honest effort to make it work.


At some point almost every woman feels some dissatisfaction in her relationship but the one who are willing to work on them often find it wasn't the marriage that they were dissatisfied with but themselves or the financial or living situation at the time.


I Adore my man but I get pissed at times and sometimes I think what if but I am mature enough to realize that this will pass so I don't do anything drastic that I might later regret.


Before you go for the divorce get some counseling for both of you!
It's not too late. Tell him about it. Breaking up is hard. He was young and you were young when you both married. What's the point of staying in an unhappily married at this age when the road ahead of you are full of mystery and adventures? You can still care about him after the divorce. Do think about it carefully if you are doing this because you are no longer able to provide a tiny space in your heart for this guy, OR are you doing it because you want your freedom as a single to do whatever pleases you.Make a decision and no one has any rights to thumb you down, becus at end you are answerable to yourself.
Oh dear. I wish that more people today could understand that marriage is a serious venture. Yes, you were very young, but I'm honestly not seeing real problems here other than that you don't ';feel the same way';. I hate to tell you this, but most people probably don't feel the same way after being married for awhile.





I can tell you that I felt like leaving several times, and I am married to a great guy. I threatened to leave. Now we have both aged and have been married for over 30 years. I am certainly happy that I didn't leave. That being said, what worked for me may not work for you. Marriage does have hills and valleys, though, and sometimes just doing different things together or finding hobbies (which don't threaten your marriage), etc. outside the marriage can help. If you don't have a college degree, perhaps you might even spend some time pursuing it now.
Now that u've got married and after this there is no point in feeling you are too young and doesnot feel like and all. yes, u r too young. i agree. but you are married. when your husband loves u so much, u should also love him so that your relation doesnot break. think of if your husband feels the same and breaks u and goes off his own way... doesn't feel nice u beaking your hubbys heart. live happily with him. complete your grauation and look for a carrier. the same way he'l also.. so that your life gets settled. no fun in worrying so much after marriage. all this should be thought before marriage.
First things first ok? Your very last sentence should be thought out. ';I don't know if I feel the same way about him anymore.'; First thing is to figure out FOR SURE what it is that you really want. Then if it is something that you cannot fit within your marriage, then it would be time to leave the marriage behind. If you should decide that marriage is not right for you, then get out of it now instead of stringing him along. Sure it will hurt him for a while. But he will learn that it was the best thing to do at the time and be thankful for it. That way, he will be able to find a truly loving woman who does indeed want to spend the rest of her life with him. Now you couldn't blame him for that because if you did, that would make you quite the selfish person.
You were to young to get married but that doesn't mean I'm going to give you a free pass to divorce him. You made a decision before God, family %26amp; friends to get married and ya that means you have to curb your selfishness (I just want to be young!!!). It doesn't mean you can't have fun but the ';type'; of fun needs to be appropriate and needs to include your husband.





Let's be honest, it's not that you are ';unhappy'; it's just that you don't think you are being as happy as you could be by being single (grass isn't always greener, a hard lesson you might figure out). You want to do x,y,z but because you are married with responsibilities you can't do it.