Marriage advice needed?

I've been married for two years and together for 9. Im very unhappy. Every single day all day long i think of divorce. I have been this way for a year and a half. Im not very attracted to her, i dont want to spend time with her, and I don't have fun having sex with her. We only have sex like once a month and it sucks. Even at that she will only do it if I have finished the chores she has asked me to do. I'm just not happy. But on the other hand i can trust her 110%. Im just worried that if i gey a divorce then i will regret it. Is this normal or is divorce probably the answer?Marriage advice needed?
Do not stay in a bad marriage. Sex should be fun, not something you get because your where a good boy and you did what Mommy said. You are probably whooped, that is the only reason she married you, because she can tell you what to do and you do it. Be a man, if you do not like her, get rid of her, you will always find another girlfriend or wife, they are not that hard to find.Marriage advice needed?
At least make an attempt to go to counseling first. Some of the issues can be resolved if you guys are open and honest with each other. Communication is one thing that can save a relationship and the lack of it will definitely ruin it!
You need to talk. To her for a start, explaining how you feel, without accusing or blaming her. How does she feel about the relationship ? How does she feel about being your ornamental sex slave ? What does she feel about being married to such a selfish bastard, who only considers his own happiness and satisfaction ?





If that does not help move forwards, you probably would benefit from counselling, either together if she agrees, or on your own. This will hep you identify what you are really like, what you really want, and how to get it.





If there really is no common ground between you, staying together will just prolong the unhappiness all round, so splitting up is the way to go. That of course would mean making your own way in the world rather than leaning on this poor woman, and so you may well regret it, but there you go.





Stop being such a selfish git, and get real.
Talk to your wife about your feelings...Best of luck to you both :-)
if you've been together for 9 years and only married for 2, why on earth did you get married in the first place? Are you only married because of the sex? If you can't help with chores in the house, then maybe that's the reason why sex sucks. She's probably too tired to even be a wife to you. Better get counselling or a divorce because marriage is a choice to be with someone through thick or thin, in sickness or in health, for richer or poorer and not because of the number of times you can have sex in a month.
If your gay, get out if not, then figure what your problem may be , you sound restless, why not take the wife for some adventures outside and have some fun, then when you get home just bring the fun to bed, use your imagination. Have a good time!
Why the hell would she want to have sex with someone who is not attracted to her? Do you think she does not know this? Why would you even USE her for sex if you are not attracted? Clearly you had some trumped up idea of marriage that made you think that that spark is there forever and you need not nurture it. People get bored with eachother. The grass is not greener. And don't be so sure she is 110 percnet faithful......No woman is going to feel unloved for long without looking around. Maybe that would be just the thing to make you appreciate her
Change is scary, you will need some strength to leave. Trust me when I tell you that marriages are based on a lot of different reasons, some good, some silly, some on sex alone, but I don't remember ever hearing someone say he married a woman because he could trust her. If that is the highest compliment you can come up with, do both of you a favor, and stop the pretending. I hope you don't have children, but even that doesn't sound like a good enough tie to bind. Best wishes and good luck to you and your wife.
So you were together for 9 straight years, married for 2 years and now you are saying you are not happy with your marriage? Why did you marry if this isn't the woman you wanted to spend your entire life with? I don't get it.





I really think you married her for all the wrong reasons.





I would consider you both reading, ';The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage'; and ';The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands.';





You married her for better or for worse. I guess marriage vows don't mean a thing for you or her. It is up to you. Hopefully, you will do the right thing.
You need a hard, cold dose of reality. If she's only allowing you to have sex with her after you do your chores and no other times, then chances are... she hates it too. If you divorce her, you will regret it. I read things like this and I never ever want to get married again. People do not seem to Cherish what they have. If you hate her that much, then be fair and leave her so someone else more deserving of her can love her. Have you once ever thought that maybe you have grown stale to her also? have you thought about maybe she is a faithful person and stay because she made the vows? You said that you get sex once a month and it is awful and yet, you said she will ONLY GIVE IT TO YOU AFTER YOU ARE DONE WITH YOUR CHORES. If it is so awful, why are you asking for it?
ok....these feelings are not healthy...obviously....but have you sat down and talked to her about it? is it possible at all she could even fix this? If you want out and thats it, there is nothing she could ever do to make you happy...then its unfair to her to stay married....move on...let her find someone who will love her for who she is....and you as well...best wishes
I Think You Need To Talk It Out With Her.There Are Likely Deeper Issues Involved. A Marriage Counselor Would Be Very Beneficial For You Both!!!
seek advise form a professional or get some help form a church... like a pastor. If you still cant work it out after a strong effort on both of your parts. then and only then look at divorce. its no game you are dealing with life.