Any advice for my marriage?

Whenever I go to work, my husband looks at porn on the internet. I've even come home to find semen-soaked paper towel in the garbage. In the past I would ask him about it and he would apologize. I've written him a letter to tell him exactly how I feel and it was ignored. Now whenever I bring it up he denies it. He says he has no idea what I'm talking about. He was doing this while I was pregnant, we have 10 month old. I get home and there's a mountain of dirty dishes. He says he couldn't do them because he was so tired, but then I find that he was looking at porn. So apparently he did his thing and then passed out. I'm trying to understand, but it's hard when he won't talk to me about it. Maybe he's embarrassed, I don't know. I wish I didn't have such a problem with it, it just makes me feel so insecure. A long time ago he made a comment that masturbating was like having sex with whoever your thinking about. I keep thinking about that and it's driving me crazy.Any advice for my marriage?
Your husband has no reason to be embarressed that he was masterbating. Or that he was looking at porn. These are completely normal activities for a man, married or not. I don鈥檛 understand why so many women are heartbroken to find out that their men do this. They鈥檝e been doing it since they were ten. It doesn鈥檛 mean he doesn鈥檛 love you, doesn鈥檛 mean you don鈥檛 satisfy him, it is simply a natural biological act that men are programmed to do. You are treating him like a child, and acting like a child yourself. It is time to grow up and accept that adult married men jack off. As for the dishes鈥? If you asked him to do the dishes and he didn鈥檛 then I鈥檇 address that with him. But that has nothing to do with the masturbation. It doesn鈥檛 take 8 hours for a man to jack off. But honest to god, if that is the biggest problem in your marriage, you better start counting your blessings.Any advice for my marriage?
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I don't have an issue with my hubby looking at porn. But it sounds like your husband is addicted. This is not normal and he is doing it to the neglict of other things.





He needs help. Look at these sites.


http://www.fishthe.net/porn_help.html


http://www.no-porn.com/
Your husband has a problem. You need to get him to see someone for that addiction and also you both need to see a marriage counselor.





You are not at fault. This is not about you. This is HIS problem. He has a problem. (Did you hear me yet?)





Get help for you and your family or get out.
i would bring it up again and ask him why he does it. i too would go online when hes not there and block all porn site. you can do that. hope all works out
He must have been drunk when he said that, because masturbation is definitely not as good as having sex with a real person. It's pretty hilarious, when you think about it, that you go through the trash to find used paper towels, isn't it? Well, it's either funny or it's sad.





You would do well to tell yourself repeatedly, until it sinks in, that your husband looking at porn does absolutely nothing to you. It harms you in no way whatsoever. Dishes? Please, treat that as a separate issue. There's no need for lumping the equitable distribution of household chores in with masturbation. Handle one issue at a time. In this case, this issue is chores. Then, work on making porn a non-issue in your mind, as it should be.





My advice for your marriage is for you to stop worrying about something so insignificant as porn and masturbation.
When it starts interfering with your real-life relationship or your real-life activities, watching porn becomes a problem.





I would recommend professional help, because it sounds like he may have an addiction.