Really need advice on my marriage, wife always wants to say divorce.?

im in the military. im deployin to iraq in the next couple of months. been married 2 years.my wife is couple of months pregnant. we fight all the time about stupid sh*it. she is constantly talkin bout divorce or leaving me. im 22 she is 20.


i guess that was our first mistake. anyways. i want the best for my baby. i know we gonna end up divorcing soon. im just so tired of her costantly Threating to divorce me. i know im not perfect but i do admit when im wrong. she has never admitted being wrong in any fight. she never wants to work.


i've always paid all the bills. we also fight about money. she cant seem to want to save money she just want to buy,buy and buy. i'll be in iraq for a good 8-12 months. i will make more than 20,000 dollars not spending money and stuff. i have a car i bought during the marriage. i dont know what to do but i dont think its fair that if we do divorce she gets 1/2 or more of everything i have worked hard for and put my life in the line. what can you advice meReally need advice on my marriage, wife always wants to say divorce.?
First of all thank you for what your doing for us . Going to Iraq is bad enough but to have all this added pressure from your wife must be unbearable . In my opinion you two weren't ready for marriage . You seem way to young and now you have a baby coming . You said you think she will divorce you and it looks like you are right . You will have the baby and no matter what you will always have that bind between you . Try to get as much settled as you can before you leave . If in your state everything is fifty fifty she will get half of everything . The one bright spot here right now is your going to be a daddy . That's something so much better then any material thing you can buy . I wish you the best and May God Bless You and keep you safe .Really need advice on my marriage, wife always wants to say divorce.?
I'm a twenty plus year vet that's pretty much seen it all. My advice to you is to end it on your terms and not wait until she moves out without paying the bills and leaving you holding the bag. It sounds like divorce is gonna happen no matter what you do. Go to legal and get advice on how to protect youself, and you legal obligations / rights to your soon to be child. As you well know, the majority of the military marrages end in divorce. Good luck, and good hunting
don['t tell her, call a lawyer. have a plan before you leave.


act now. to delay will cause more problems.


any thing you own prior to the marriage give to a family member to hold for you for when you come home. keep your money separate.


she will have to get a job. you will have to pay the allotment and child support.


good luck!!!
First of all most states won't let a pregnant woman file for divorce. So maybe while you are away on deployment it will give you guy some time apart. Maybe you can get to know each other through the internet and phone calls. Another question is the car in your name or in both your names? Also have your money sent to your own bank account and just give her enough to get by on. Do you love her? Do you want to work things out or do you want a divorce? Use your deployment as a time to consider life. I mean I know your in a scary situation with that but maybe it will keep your mind off that stuff. Try to enjoy yourself when possible. I don't know if this helped. But I hope so. I have been married for 4 years and I am 24 and I use to threaten to divorce him all the time to. I grew up and he finally got his stuff together. I would say we are happily married 94% of the time. Remember everyone fights.
i agree call her bluff next time tell her to go ahead and file
call her bluff
Try counseling, if that doesnt work then you can still be a great dad without being married to her. Good luck.
My advice for you is to try and reason with her and talk to her calmly if you start yelling then she will to, its hard to deal with people who are acting childish so be patient... tell her you'd like for her to stop bringing up divorce because you'd like to try and work it out, since you have a child on the way.. if she keeps bringing it up then maybe iits her thats wants the divorce.. and you cant control that , you can only do what you can do..
I would suggest that you make an appointment at the SJA's office to see an attorney, and try to get some advice on what to do about the possibly of divorcing your wife. Also tell the attorney that she is constantly telling you she wants a divorce, and your just trying cover all the bases. Also speak about your baby is going to be born while your over seas in Iraq. See if you can have an allotment made out for her rather than giving her half of your income while you are gone. Try and see if you can put your overseas and hazardous duty pays put in a separate bank account. You will be able to live off of hardly nothing except for toilet articles, and cigs while your there. This way you will at least saved something while your away. Thanks for going over to Iraq, doing what is required of you. Keep on your toes while you are there, and come home safe and sound. I'll pray for you, and good luck. I sure Hope you don't get a Dear John letter while you are there. I would like to see you handle that situation before you leave. That would be one less thing for you to worry about. You have to focus on what you are there for. Again, Good Luck, be safe.
Yeah, I agree with you that it wouldn't be fair for her to take 1/2 of all YOU did..yah know but...Thank you for fighting for our country by the way i have all the respect in the world for you guys but...to me it sounds like for your good you should get out of the marrige..but its always better to try and stick it out i know my parents were going throught a stage in which they were contimplating divorce, but they didn't for me and now they are happy as ever..so its up to you man..GOOD LUCK and thank you
Dont give up, she is probobly stressed. Go out to dinner and discuss it, tell her you love her and want to work on the marriage.





Your only 2 years married and it takes time to get used to each other.





If you are that freaked out about money start taking some out in cash and put it in a different bank where noone knows you.