Marriage advice please?

Ok so my hubby and i are 8 years apart im 22. I have been having pelvic pain for the past 5 months since getting really sick in January. well tonight it got really bad and i went to the er where all they really did was give me medication. well my hubby is a paramedic and now he is really angry at me. we have been having these spats since i got sick. im so tired of hurting and i cant tell him when i hurt because he gets angry at me. Well tonight i called him from the hospital and he says it is suspicious that i got so sick to go there since we had a arguement last night over me getting a job. Is this really suspicious i mean i really hurt. how can i get him to understand that. i mean i want a hug and he is at work, friends house, or the gym. what did i do wrongMarriage advice please?
go to the doc tomorrow, scedule an emergency appointment. when you get the results, tell him what they said, show him the meds, maybe then he'll understand the seriousness of how you are feeling. he may think you are using it as an excuse or a way to avoid taking on the responsibility of a job, but it sounds like it might be triggered by stress. which could be a kidney infection, a uti gone really bad, either way, you need to get to a doc asap. tell him you'll get a part time job as soon as you finish the meds and have a clean bill of health, but to start a job in thhis condition is not going to be good for your health. which will lead to more medical bills. take the time you need to get well and if he feels pressure and needs you to work, get a part time job at least and help out more. he seems to think you are using this as a way to avoid responsibility so look into the patterns of your arguments. see if, when, where you have contributed. apologize and then let him you know you are willing to work on things but have to get your health together. he's in the field, go to the doc, get a diagnoses and he should back off.





good luck! go to the doc!Marriage advice please?
divorce your loser husband....you don't need that sh**..from him.
You obviously aren't communicating very well. As a husband myself I can tell you that it is very difficult being married to a woman. Men need sex consistently or they begin to get very irritable and resentful. They feel trapped because you tricked them into this contract where they will have sex with only you and now you are refusing to give it to them. I assume you aren't having much sex since you have this pelvic pain.


Men also feel taken advantage of when they make all the monry and still the women do nothing but complain. Do you make him feel like a king by having meals ready for him, pleasing him sexually, making him feel appreciated? I doubt it.


If you are in pain, go to the doctor and fix it. And by the way, if your husband was in pain, he would still have to work. He would still have to support you and him. Being in pain is no reason to ignore your responsibilities.


Men are quite simple, they are willing to give women security, money, affection, and a good time, however they must feel they are getting a good bargain in return. If not, they feel like they are being played the fool, and they can get mean and nasty. it's common sense.
The main thing you did wrong is come here to open about you situation looking for advice. You need to be this way with him and work out your personal issues with your husband. I'd be very upset if my wife took such actions without coming to me with it.
I would wonder why someone in the para-medical field would doubt that there could be a cause for long term abdominal pain? Off the top of my head I can think of a few - Pelvic Inflammatory Disease, Endometreosis, Fibroids, diviticular disease, food intolerance's, Irritable Bowel Syndrome, Chronen's Disease, Kidney and Gall stones, acute appendicitis, etc.


Please for your sake (not his) get this checked out so you can find out what it is, and get a suitable treatment plan drawn up.
sweetie,the only reason he possibly has for getting mad at you for hurting is because hes afraid. he sounds like he loves you so much the mere thought that something might be terrible wrong with your health has him acting completely un compassionate and totally non caring. try explaining to him its ok if hes afraid but so are you.this individual deals with life and death professionally but you might be to close to his heart for him to be Abel to be strong and decent and loving.if hes is unwilling to try to change his behavioral pattern your mental mind could get just as bad as your body pain maybe worse i wish you the very best with everything cassandra
Everyone has to work on their relationship. Sometimes it can be hard but both the man and woman have to give a little. You should check out this blog: http://winningyouback.blogspot.com


It has a lot of relationship information that has helped me and some of my friends.
very painful it happens some time be bravo you will have to face it
Pursue answers on why the pain is there and dont stop until you are satisfied with the answers, band aid medication only masks the pain and doesnt reveal the source and cause.





Your hubby sounds a little immature and not very compassionate or understanding.





However do not pursue the answers to please him... pursue them to please you....your pain is priority here.... if you don't fix it by really going after causes asap....you may not live to regret it...





If he wants to leave you because you want the answers to your pain...you would be better off without him...and find someone who cares for you...
So he thinks your are pretending to be in pain to prolong getting a job? Tell him that the last thing you need when your sick is having a husband that doesn't trust you and yells at you. Your married and he needs to stop being a dick..whatever happened to ';through sickness and health'; ????





He needs to spend more time with you and be there for you. I mean your sick and in pain. Just because they didn't find anything wrong with you doesn't mean your faking it. He needs to be a man and be there for you not make you depressed. When someone is sick, you are not supposed to make them upset because they will go from being emotionally depressed to physically being sicker.
sounds way too complicated. and i suspect there is more to it than you've written.





you really need to get that pelvic pain sorted out. 3 months of pain isn't right. they need to run more tests.
Why are you with this moron? I would of already told him to take a very long walk off a very short pier.





Have you seen an OBGYN or an internal medicine doctor? Make the appointment then tell him of the appointment.
GO SEE YOUR GYNO AND NOW!!!!!!!!!! it sounds like you have pid!! and an infection!





tell him look I am making a gyno appt and you are welcome to come with me however i do not need you thinking I am faking this I love you and want to have sex that is not painful!