Advice on my Marriage?

My husband and I have been together for almost 6 years up until august 06. We realized our marriage wasnt working and he moved out. I just spent 5 wonderful days reconnecting with him and now he has gone back to playing games, you see i asked him twice to come home and each time he told me no. During the 5 nights we spent together we slept together and everything was just as it was when we first met. my question is should I just go ahead and file my divorce now that he seems to be cruel yet again and is still playing games? Or should i stick it out? When I want to talk to him about our situation he just tells me that he needs more time to think and If I loved him i would wait. I have been waiting since August...What should I do?Advice on my Marriage?
Definitely sit him down and talk to him. First, figure out what you want and then ask him what he wants. If you both want to work it out, then you've got to come up with a plan to stick to. If he seems wishy-washy or unwilling to make a commitment to work on your relationship, then don't waste any more of your time.





Playing games and asking you to wait for him is his method of stringing you along and probably to keep having sex with you. Look our for yourself and your feelings/best interests and get rid of him if he can't commit to a mature relationship. Good luck!Advice on my Marriage?
It's time for you to get some answers.





Where is he staying? Ask to meet him at a neutral ground--for dinner maybe.





Lay it out on the table for him--you are tired of his game playing, and you want to know what is going on. If divorce is the right option, you both need to agree on it.





If he won't talk to you, make it happen.
Leave him. He's using you, and has no qualms about it. You're better off without him.
Try marriage councelling, but it sounds like its over
Even though you are both married he seems to be liking the single life so to speak. Or maybe not having to tell you when he comes and goes. Only you can decide how much you want this marriage to work. Suggest counseling with him and see what he says. If he's against it then I'd just tell him that he obviously isn't serious about your marriage since you would like to do all you can to make it work but you can't do it all by yourself so you might as well see about getting a divorce. It's not fair to either of you living like this anyways. Either he wants the marriage to work or he doesn't but it's not fair to ask you to wait until he decides what he wants. Speak up.
Definitely try to work things out with him. Being married takes a lot of hard work, so don't give up on it. Be honest with each other. Find out why the both of you decided it wasn't working out and try to figure out how to make each other's lives easier. Make goals and discuss expectations of each other. I hope there aren't any children involved because this will affect them too for the rest of their lives. Hope you come to a better understanding of one another. Marriage counseling may also help. Remember communication is key in a marriage.
Sounds like you guys need marriage counseling, not a long weekend having sex (sorry). I would ask him if he's willing to go to a counselor with me. What does he need to think about? What was going on in your marriage that you and he decided it was no longer working? If you want to work out your marriage, then communicate that to your husband, but both of you have to be willing. If he's not, then the decision may already be made for you. Marriage takes alot of very hard work.
He's having his cake and eating it too!!! File.....maybe that will open his eyes.
I would say file for the divorce. He should know what he wants and to have you waiting is just cruel. don't waste anymore time. send him a message by filing the divorce and by then if he still doesn't know than go through with it.
First off love the name ';Hips';, as for the marriage. Try counseling first.
Why do you not allow him to be responsible for his actions? If you want a man who is true to his word, then hold the guy up to those standards. If he doesn't come through, he never will.





Tell him what you expect from him if you get back together, give him a timeline (of your choosing) and if he doesn't do it, go on with your life. You've given him the chance to have you again, if he blows it that is his responsibility, not yours.
Consider some form of marriage counselling for you both in order to try and salvage this relationship which sounds like it is going nowhere fast.
His time thinking can be done under the same roof...otherwise he wants out..
i have been in your shoes. i found out the hard way, time to move on,dont look back.
be prepared. same thing happened to me. he made me believe that everything was ok and then started acting weird and then comes home one day, moves out and had already filed for divorce and i had just had a baby 2 mo before,,,,,,,so be prepared to move on and it is better to do it now before you have kids
Lay it on the line. Tell him if he loves you he wouldn't leave you hanging. Tell him what you need. If he can't be the man then you need to find a new one.
tell him its all or nothing and to make his mind up now... he doesn`t need more time, ... don`t let him use you and remind him he is an adult!
If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck.....don't waste any more time on this. Move on and find the person you deserve in life.
You really should take sometime for yourself and look deep inside to see if you still want to be in this relationship. It sounds to be that it wouldn't make a difference to your husband if you guys stay together or not. Instead of asking your husband to come home take the time by yourself and just think it over.





Your husband is odviously is happy with just having a casual relationsip with you. You are looking for a serious commiment.


Give your husband the time that he says he needs but during that time don't wait go out and explore what you need instead of waiting for him at home wanting to work things out with him.


Just go out and have a life without your husband. When it does come time to reach a consulation you will know the answer.


Its just a matter of adjusting. Life with your husband will always be the same. Life without him will be totally different and a wonderful advantage to explore.
i think you shud file and scare him!


if he is really serious about you than he will BEG you to call the divorce off!





GOOD LUCK
Don't wait. you have tried that. File for divorce. Make sure he knows how you feel and that you are doing this because you love him but you respect yourself. (and by the way it is a game when people say ';if you loved me then...';)





Get yourself away from him. You waited and nothing happened. Now file for divorce, it's the only thing you haven't tried.





I could not be with someone who treated me that way. He may be going through something but that doesn't give him the right to treat you that way. (You deserve to be treated better and the only way to ensure better treatment is to start by treating yourself better)





I know this from personal experience.





Good Luck!