Need advice for my friends marriage problems?

My friend found a tex on her husband phone to another women, it was a women he worked with, it was using the same nick name he used for his wife and saying i miss you etc


He says it was just flirting and nothing ever happen and swore he was just being a old fool


His wife and I went to her work and spoke to her she said it was just silly and for fun and she did not think it would cause a problem,she appolagised,said there was nothing happening and she never had a interest other than having a laugh to pass the day in


My friend feels betrayed and does not no if she can trust him any more as she never no for sure there was nothing in it


I do not think anything happen but I not sure encouraging her to go back to her marriage is right either for she will blame me if there stuff comes out later


Can a man just send a tex and have no meaning behind itNeed advice for my friends marriage problems?
Trust in a marriage is hard to achieve in the best of circumstances. When that trust is breached in any way it is difficult to get back, but not impossible.. I think the best advice you can give him is to tell him to give her some space until she is in the right place to try and understand what has happened. It probably has come as a big shock, that this has happened and her mind needs time to process it before she can start to process the facts of the situation.





For her she just needs to be listened to her. Hold off on giving your opinion, even if she asks. Try and help her by asking questions so she can come to a conclusion on her own. Questions like, ';how are you feeling'; ';are you feeling any different now that you have had some time to think?'; stay away from questions like ';Do you think you can ever trust him again?'; ';do you think you are going to stay with him';.





Marriages can bounce back from a lot worse than this. And they can also end for a lot less.





You are doing the right thing. Giving them both an ear that will listen and a shoulder to lean on. I think you should hold off on giving either your opinion on whether or not they should stay together. That is entirely for them to decide as a couple.





Hope that has helped you some.Need advice for my friends marriage problems?
Ask your friend to make decision for herself and take full responsibility for those.. as you have said that you might be blamed later.





However, I might have advised her to ask her husband, what would he feel if his wife sends someone equally racy messages to someone else just for laugh, would not he be pissed of? Similarly, he should understand and respect the reaction of his wife.
Stop getting involved and tell your friend she better learn how to handle her husband.
When u have confronted with both the ppl involved and found nothing contradictory then it clearly shows tht nothing wrong between them and it is jus for time pass..... possible they r close to each other b'coz of the work nature but mentally they wud know tht they have their seperate lives.... so, there is no point to take this matter to make any silly mistake.... we must have to learn to keep our relations live b'coz there r so many factors or circumstances who r already working to create the gap in relations.... I hope, u understand my point.