Tuesday, April 27, 2010

Need your advice on my marriage?

Married for 5 months. The marriage was never consummated to this day and intimacy is limited to kisses. Husband sleeps in his room while wife sleeps on the couch. The husband says he has an erectile problem and can't seem not to find the mood to make love to his wife. Yet does nothing to have it treated. What do you think the wife should do?Need your advice on my marriage?
I don't understand why this would mean you have to sleep in separate beds. Sleeping and cuddling together is an intimacy that should happen even if he can't have sex and without even that there is no chance for this marriage. Your husband has to go and get this sorted or the marriage is pretty much doomed.Need your advice on my marriage?
Tell him that as husband and wife, you both have a duty to each other to satisfy each other's sexual desires. Tell him you are willing to help him through foreplay first.





If he still resists, I suggest you ask him to go for a sexual transmitted diseases screening. He may fear he has caught something but fears of having a check up. Assure him you will be with him all the way.





Finally, doctors are able to treat erectile problems. Ask him why he won't seek medical help? Again, assure him you will be by his side when he goes to the doctor.
Before you make any drastic decision try to work it out with your husband. At least, you can say to yourself you did everything you could to make it work.
I think that unless you want to spend the rest of your life sleeping on the couch, you need to have a serious talk with the husband or write him a letter or get an annulment.
Did she know about this before the marriage? Maybe she's fine with it. Maybe he's gay. Seems weird that he doesn't even want to at least sleep next to her and be close. Maybe he's gay for real.
She should read a book by Gary Chapman called The Five Love Languages. That should help some... it's very informational, and the stuff in there is SO true.
She should call that marriage a mistake and end it.
Leave and find someone else!

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