Marriage without finances? please advice?

My cousin, a 32 year old lady wants to get married to a 40 year old guy. The problem is that he is not financially settled, neither is she. He lives in a single room, not even a flat. There are no immediate prospects for better work, or pay, or improvements in lifestyle. Her parents object to this since he does not seem financially capable. Things may change for the better, but what if they dont? she comes from a family that has a couple of houses the own, he does not have the means. What should i advice her? she is not getting any younger. My worry is that if he cant provide suitable accomodation, can he sustain a marriage with kids? she is really downcast, i feel they both love each other, but its important that he must be able to support his family. Please adviceMarriage without finances? please advice?
Love goes a long, long way. They only need to support themselves in a style that is right for them. This might mean that they both happily live in one room.





I would encourage you to support their decision to marry but also to advise them on the responsibility of having children. Once children enter the picture its not about them anymore. They can love one another but they need to love their future children enough not to bring them into the world until they can give them what they need. This mean financial responsibility, bank accounts, health insurance and a home of their own.





Love is blind, the reality is you probably have little to no influence on their decision to marry. But hopefully you can plant the seed of reason when it comes to children.Marriage without finances? please advice?
If they both don't want to be poor they need to get their act together.





Maybe they could go back to school and get training or a better education so they can get better jobs.





If they can't afford kids, then they need to take steps to prevent pregnancy.
It is not the question if he can support his family, but can they?





She must be supporting the kids on her own now? They going to move into her home?


When was the last time this guy allowed the family to view his bank account? Has the family ever viewed his bank account?


Your cousin sounds old enough that she must realize marring a man of little means, means she will continue to work to pay the bills? Unless of course he has more ';means'; then the family knows about?





If she has kids she best get settled......





Well good luck and just remind her of the other mouth to feed, clean up after etc. if he is just scraping by (a man of little means).