Marriage on the rocks after only 2 months!!! Any advice?

We've fought more in the last 2 months than in the last 2 yrs we've been together. Everything from jealousy issues on both our parts, her lack of work, etc. All comments welcomed.Marriage on the rocks after only 2 months!!! Any advice?
The first year is the hardest.


You have to learn how to trust and communicate.


2 things that are hard to come by, you can do it though.


Just take a deep breath, look at her, and remember why you married her in the first place.


Good luck to you...your 5 year anniversary will be here before you know it!Marriage on the rocks after only 2 months!!! Any advice?
what is your idea of marriage? Is it being self-less, working hard to make the other person happy, doing little thinkgs every day to show you love the other person??


I think not!!!






the first 5 years are hard, but have you tried to talk to her and what are her respond or her feed back to you
The first year of marriage is fun and hard at the same time, and the phrase marriage is work is totally true. You have to know when to walk away, and let things cool off. You still have to deal with the problem but take her some where(coffee shop, quiet restaurant, etc) and try to work things out, but alot of times you just have to let it go or ask her if this is really worth getting all worked up about. Don't give up, work hard at loving your wife.
If you love him, you willl handle these hard situations.
Why are there jealousy issues now. If you dated so to speak for 2 years, honestly where is this issue coming from. If you have been together for that long you should be able to trust each other. It's normal to be going through these trials and tribulations. Your learning more intimate details about one another. You talk about her lack of work. You did not state if she has a job or if your talking about housework, Did you ever think about helping her. After all she's not there to be your maid just like your not there to be her waiter. Talk to each other. Communicate and let each other know what you two expect out of each other. Respect each other, and honor those boundaries that you promised each other only 2 months ago. I'm talking about your wedding vowels.
You married her which means til death do us part right? unless you took different vows. You said your marriage is on the rocks which means you are NOT as committed as a married couple should be. You both should be taking marriage more seriously. Most importantly realize marriage is no cake walk and that there will always be problems in life to get through. That's life. That's marriage. Also, you should deal with the problems and communicate NOT run away from them. It sounds like you are thinking about running away from the problems in your marriage. It's like...Oh my gosh, there's a marital problem let me just get a divorce. Start understanding what marriage is.
The two of you where miserable in this relations prior to getting married. It amazes me how people think marriage is going o solve the problems between them and their significant other. If the two of you are fighting now more than ever it's because he both of you realize that you've made the marriage (or unholy union) between the two of you final and there is no way out. So you both feel trapped which is making you both have second thoughts about one another and the marriage as a whole. I would advise that the two of you just take a chill pill, step back, reanalyze why you got married in the first place, and try and sort your feelings out. See if this is really what the two of you want and if this is really who you want to spend the rest of your life with. You can't force yourself to love someone if you really don't love them. You should go and stay with either friends or family, and your partner should to do the same. But do this after you've had a talk with one another, because the only way things will be resolved between he two of you is if you talk to one another, and not AT one another.
I get married in 12 days. However we have lived together for just over a year. The first year was hard. We were getting used to each other and our quirks. We fought over bills, him working long hours, him Playing WOW online, feed the dog, turning off the lights, doing chores, leaving laundry on the floor...You name it. We fought over it. However we agreed that we will pick our battles and he has learned to talk about it instead of walking away.





It's not going to be easy. Marriage takes work and alot of it. You have to work at something to make it succeed.....


Communicate communicate communicate..I can't tell you how important communication is.
It's only normal because both of you are still on the stage of adjustment. Remember that courtship is very different from marriage. You'll get to know better each other once you started living together. Your communication is now on a different level. I know where you are coming from because i've been there. We also quarreled a lot on the first few months. There was also a time i was so mad that i left our house in the middle of the night and slept at my parents' house. But after 19 months of being married, i can say our relationship is now stable. We still quarrel sometimes but now i know how to handle it. I realized that, in a marriage, you have to keep a good set of checks and balances because a marriage depends on the smallest of details and the largest of emotions. It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal. It not marrying the right partner but being the right partner.
You two might just be going thru a transition stage. It's not uncommon for the first year of a marriage be bumpy especially u didn't live together before marriage. Give time, patience, %26amp; lots of love. Good luck