Have messed up marriage bad. Any womenly advice.?

Haven't listened enough to wifes needs. She says shes half and half on staying. I am trying to get her to stay because i love her with all heart and soul. What can i do now? I know she loves me and she is scared. Trying hard to be a better man. Any womenly advice? I truely love her like i have loved no other. lovesickHave messed up marriage bad. Any womenly advice.?
What is stopping u from giving her what she wants from u? Communication isn't just about talking. It's about active listening as well and maybe u haven't been a good listener and disregard her whenever she needs u to listen to her. It makes us women feel as though we are not important enough for u when men do this. Start giving her what she wants.Have messed up marriage bad. Any womenly advice.?
I would say that you have to sit down and really talk with her, she is on the fence and can go either way, really talk, in fact let her talk, you may not like all that you hear, but let her vent, listen actively and really pay attention to her, don't try to fix her problems mid sentence, but wait until she is done. You may not be able to fix them all, but yes.. I am in a similar situation, but my husband hasn't figured it out yet, so I am hoping that by being able to help some one else, I can get my own feeling straightened out to be able to help my self
love her....show her that u love her......when u love her show her that ...she ll appreciate it......surprise her with wonderful things...they need nt be expensive....just spend more time with her...ask her what she needs...c that u talk to her daily....keep some time just for u both......dont let any1 disturb u.....start showing her that u truly care for her.....let her know that her presence in ur life is really important....and that u treasure her....wit time she ll understand that u ve changed for her......have a happy life...may god bless u both
:) well, it's good that u are trying to own up to ur mistakes Now, better late than never right??





what u need to do is be open minded, first of all. next, find out how and what u can do to make sure your wife feels SAFE AND SECURE. she has to have the ability to Trust in you, that you will be there for her, that you will be able to take Care of her. if she loses that trust in you, then yeah, she will start looking elsewhere, u know?? there's nothing u can really specifically DO right now except COMMUNICATE with her, find out solutions together.





figure out what you expect from yourself...as a Man, as a Husband, and your Future. figure out what you expect from her.. as a Woman, as a Wife, and in the Future.





next, ask her what SHE expects from herself as a Woman, Wife and her future. then, what she expects from you as a Man, Husband, and the future.





if you agree and understand each other's expectations, u will be able to WORK on the marriage so that you can grow the Trust, Commitment, and Love. but if your expectations do not match hers at all, then u will have a rough time ahead of you.





Remember, marriage and love is not easy, it takes work! but the kind of work that is extremely important, and something to be Proud of. a sense of achievement, accomplishment, not annoyance or shirking of responsibilites. you have to continuously grow and strengthen your relationship, u cannot leave it stagnant or even let it sour... that is very dangerous and hard to get out of. as long as u know that you are willing to do ALL u can to fix things, and she accepts and is willing as well, u have a chance! when u give up, or she gives up, it will be too late, and u will be miserable.





good luck~
Well if you really love her like you say you do then you have a pretty good start. I don't know your exact situation but I think you two should be able to work things out, it might help to consult a therapist as they can help get to the root of the problem in a productive loving manner.
Well, you can start off by telling her what you have just left here. If you love her, and know you haven't taken her needs into consideration, she needs to know you see that. Honestly, there will be some work involved...you can't make all these wonderful promises and then go back to whatever it was you were doing before. If she is unsure, you need to make her sure. If she is willing to hear you out, you need to take that opportunity to get her to see that you know what you have done or not done....this is your chance to show her. If she hasn't left yet, that means she is waiting for you to do the right thing. There is hope for you yet....
You have to show her how much you love her so she can build the trust back for you. Get her a card, help her around the house, cook her dinner, help her with her chores, etc.............
exactly what u jus said, dont talk, listen--get her sumthin nice, take her out for all ur worth mann!!!?!?!
messed up how?What u don't listen to her,had affair? What! What ever the case is in a mariage love is not enough. It's about respect and being hosest on how u feel and the things u do. You say u love her like no other thats great. But do u love yourself like no other do u fear God ? There's a book called 10 stupid things couples do to mess up their relaytionship by Dr. Laura please read it then have her read it then read it together talk about it. I believe it will help u
Say sorry that you have neglected her, then break up the routine of what you were doing before. Start dating her again, start showing her how lovesick you are about her.
What the hell........??????? you tell the answer you self you dufus!!!! Why not try to be more sensetive?????? Bring her some presents!!!!! say you love her you stupid f..k!!!!!!





Read your own question!!!!! You find a lot of answers there!!!!!!!





Try be a man and not a fuc...g child!!!!! Wake up and smell reality OK!





Now do it you pus.y!!!!





Guys are just plain stupid!!!! Arg and I`m a fuc...g guy OK!





Peace and love from Norway!!!!!!


ps good luck pal!
Oh man..........You better suck up in any and every way humanly possible....You have to know after all this time how to kiss her booty....And I suggest you start doing it!....
Suggest therapy to her. Not so much for her but for you. Be up front on with your misgivings about your job so far as a husband. Be apologetic and go to counseling. To her your platitudes may sound like something you'll promise to change, be good for a few months and then revert back to your old self. This is something that needs intervention and immediately. Even if she doesn't want to go, go yourself and learn ways to be a better husband.
HELP HER OUT WITH HOUSE CHORES AND THE KIDS IF YOU HAVE ANY.LEAVE HER A SMALL NOTE .TAKE HER OUT ON A DINNER DATE.LISTEN TO HER RATHER THAN TRY TO SOLVE THE PROBLEM.WOMEN LIKE TO BE HEARD AND SOLVE THEIR OWN PROBLEMS BY TALKING ABOUT IT.THAT SHOULD DO IT.DON'T BE OVERLY ATTENTIVE JUST ENOUGH.
theres nothing broken that can't be fixed if people would learn to communicate, and feel completely safe with that person when baring their souls. she is scared because maybe she doesn't feel emotionally safe, maybe you have made her promises in the past you haven't kept. passive ways of showing someone they don't have control over u can never make for a happy marriage, they never show the other person who they really are, are u respecting her boundaries?honest communication always helps, communicate with love,and honesty.
Bring her flowers, apologize sincerely. Key word: sincerely. Don't make promises you can't keep. Make plans together to spend some time working on your relationship.....dates, dinner, talks. Perhaps you should mention counseling or a couples retreat. Go away for the weekend to reconnect...surprise her with plans to somewhere she loves. Re affirm your love to her.....reaffirm your vows.
You say you haven't listened enough to her needs... What does she need? Help her get it...





Also consider couples' therapy. Women love to talk over their problems, and if YOU suggest it she'll know you mean it when you say you want to work it out.