I've been married since I was 23 yrs old and I'm 38 now! My marriage hasn't been hard work; it has been important to me and we mesh well together! The love of a man is truly a blessing! The greatest love is the love of a man and the love of our children we created together. Is marriage as HARD as they say??? How do you MAKE IT WORK? any ADVICE?
Honestly,
We are nice to each other, we respect each other, we have a genuine Love and LIKE for each other, we are each others best friend, we laugh all the time together,We pick our battles instead of fighting about everything, we are both mature people who have a desire to make our relationship work, we keep the sex btwn the two of us, we put our relationship first, we keep good communication and we are honest with each other.
I don't ever feel like that is hard work, b/c we love eachother so much. But we have an amazing friendship and a beautiful marriage.Is marriage as HARD as they say??? How do you MAKE IT WORK? any ADVICE?
Yes, marriage is hard. It is hard work maintaining a marriage. It's hard but not impossible. It's hard because you are dealing with another human being that you have to share and compromise with. You have to get used to their habits and vice versa. Love will see you through. You have to have an open mind and be willing to bite your tongue and put the other person first. Often times you have to be the peace maker. If you are a selfish person, then don't get married just yet.
Marriage teaches you so many things about yourself. Even if you have the best relationship marriage will challenge you but it is well worth the effort.
For a married person like me, What me and my husband do is that we bond after a long day. We ask each other how our day was and we share stories, and we just find ourselves laughing together.
Marriage is hard, really, you have obligations, responsibilities, but it doesn't mean that you just have to do it by yourself. marriage is a vow, you'll help each other in every way. Discuss things together, in every decision, talk about it. Even in Sex, ask your partner if is there anything you are fantasizing, and let your partner know that you are willing to fulfill it. Treat your partner as s/he is your life that you can't live without.
Marriage is hard in that you must put your own needs aside sometimes for what is good for you as a couple. It means putting the other person first. It is not a 50%/50% proposition, but rather it takes each person giving it 100% to make it work. It may not always be easy, but for me it has always been worth it. We make it work through honesty, even when it is hard to be honest. We have a date night once a week, and we are each others best friend.
Before you get married you need to be sure the person is your bf. If not it probably won't work. You have to be willing to take the good and the bad. But most importantly, the two of you can not give divorce a chance. Never accept divorce. If you keep that far from your mind and remember that the person you are with is family and not something you can throw away, you will be able to make it. Just remember divorce is not an option. Change is a given and you have to be flexible and open to your partner's needs, and vice versa.
yeh i dont think marriage is hard.....its just a rollercoaster.....it looks like lots of fun before you get on....but if your not prepared your gonna be sick on the ride.....i think that marriage only works in a stricked 50 50 relationship style....it keeps both of you in check and it keeps both of you honest......or it makes you both terrible people for lying....for instants me and my wife....we know everything about eachother and we know the where abouts of each other it takes the honor system for the whole 50 50 thing to work
i went from being an independent, self-sufficient single mom who made her own rules and answered to no one to married and having to consider his view on everything from where to live to what type of toilet paper goes in the bathroom. needless to say, it was a huge adjustment. we've been married 6 yrs and i till find it hard to include him in every decision that i make.
I hate that stupid cliche that marriage is hard and that people change once they are married!
As far as Im concerned thats a load of bull, marriage is taken too lightly these days which is probably most people find it difficult. I was damn sure I wanted to marry my partner of 10 years, I have never been happier and it is not hard at all.
Harder. Compromise from both parties, of course communication, and both of you knowing from the start you are in it for the long haul. Always continue doing the things you enjoyed before you met. Understand that everyone gets comfortable but should not get lazy. Know that everyone changes with age as do their interests. Know when to listen and when not to. Respect and common courtesy go a long way. Be able to express your needs to each other.
You make it work by never getting too comfortable, trying to continue to impress your mate, overlooking their shortcomings and overcoming your own as best you can.
If you have a choice of being right or being in love, forget about being right; it's a hollow victory if you don't have love.
Cheers,
Auntie Bubbles
Marriage is only as hard as you make it! It can be hard but it's about love, compromise, communication, and trust. If you don't have those things it's nothing but fights, hate and then divorce! Don't let it get their. Sometimes it takes someone keeping their mouths shut no matter how much you don't want to.
It is not easy!
Communication, understanding, give and take. An all around compromise, like a share toy in preschool. You have to ask and be nice and respect the other person.
Once you get the hang of it though, it is great. I love being married, I have a great husband.
marriage is what you make of it , if the 2of you want a good relationship you will make it work if you don't then its not going to last long at all . The key to a good marriage is honesty and faithfulness. Make sure you are communicating
My husband and i have been happily married 17+yrs and neither 1 of us has ever found married life hard at all not even from the beginning.
I guess cause we have always gotten along great and rarely fight.
marriage is only hard if you have married the wrong person; a good marriage takes attention, but it is not work...it comes from the heart
It's not THAT hard. It's different I guess. But as long as both people have an investment in the relationship it should be fine.
Yes it is. Read books or see a marriage counselor for tips.
Hard - hard %26amp; hard as h.e.l.l
It sucks as much as people and women say it does. Trust me on this one.
it take 2 people
if 1 is lazy 1 will go else were
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