Serious question for Muslim brothers and sisters, regarding marriage... Please offer advice?

Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.





I have a serious question, and would like the input of my sisters and brothers here, inshallah. Please, no hateful answers. I know the opinion of my friends and family, and would like input.





Here is the situation: A sister has reverted ~*after*~ marriage, and has several beautiful children Alhamdulillah, whom she prays with. However, her husband has rejected Islam, and has asked her to pray where she is ';out of the way';, and has also said he does not wish for his children to be taught ';any religion';. They had looked into separation, however she asked him to reconsider.





The most common answer is for her to leave the marriage immediately, however there is a problem with this. She has been raising the children and taking care of the home for nearly 10 years, and thus has nothing of her own... so if they were to divorce, he would have custody of the children, and would raise them as atheists.





Please... advice?





Jazak'Allahu khairan.Serious question for Muslim brothers and sisters, regarding marriage... Please offer advice?
As salaam o alaykum,


First of all i will pray to Allah subhanahu taala for her help secretly and give hidayah to her husband Ameen.....





sister, actually islam belives that we as a humen being can not feed or look after any body, it is Allah subhanahu taala WHO takes cares of every body ......





regarding this issue... the situation of marriage is imporatant if at the time of marriage itself the man was not converted to islam then the marriage itself is not valid....and u know islam makes easy ways for all... but we makes it difficult by our own hands... this is such kind of situation...........


if u read the history of islam in early days definatly u will find the answers... where alike many case were there.. and our Prophit MOHAMMAD (PUH) has shown them ways.......





may Allah make the way easy for her......Serious question for Muslim brothers and sisters, regarding marriage... Please offer advice?
It is better for her to separate from current Husband and seek help from Government authority for Kids.


Even then she can get support from her ex- husband for kids.


Most important ask Allah Almighty for help, I guarantee, she will through this situation very successfully insh Allah.


I would also advice to get help from local Islamic center as well.


May Allah help you and your sister to get through this situation happily and according to Islamic way, Amen.
let her be patient, find a good job, and become more independent. and then ask for divorce for this man. also she can ask muslims to help her financially. some muslims with good income will be willing to help their sister for her cause. she can create flayer of her situation and put it in a mosque that she needs help.
She should be a good Muslim and submit to her husband. She should not teach those innocent children islam!





God Bless.
Raise them as atheists. That would be the best and most sensible option.
You gave no information as to where your sister is living. If it is in the USA, she can seek custody of her children and support from their father. Also, there are numerous social services available to help her get on her feet.





Custody can also be shared. When the children are with him, he'll teach them his way. When they are with her, she'll teach them about her religion.





The big problem will be to not do this in a way which is harmful to the children. Then when they are of age, they can make their own choice as to how they want to live their lives.





Your sister needs to let her children know she loves them with all her heart no matter which choice they make.





I'm not Muslim but hope this helps.
I'm no Muslim just an average guy, but I hope you read my humble opinion.





I think, to force a religion on someone, even if they are just kids, is not right. Especially if that causes separation and the children to grow up in a broken family.





Religion should not be a concern, and adults should be able put their personal(!) beliefs aside for the sake of their children, family and love, perhaps. So the mom should step aside and let the kids grow up as atheists, but at least in a real family, which is definitely their best interest. Your sister needs to think about what is more important in her life, religion or her children?





After the children grow up they can (and certainly will) make their own decision whether they want to be atheists or convert to Islam (or something else). But religion should always be someone's personal, most private, choice and not forced on them (and kids are not an exception either).
This is a tough situation. Most people are very close-minded and are threatened by anything that is different but the truth of the matter is SHE is their mother and she should not hide who she is or where she comes from. Just like she doesn't ask her husband to ';pretend'; to be religious. Her kids have a right to know their roots, even if they grow up and have different beliefs than hers (or her husbands). The kids will know what is right for them when they are old enough to decide for themselves. Different people have all types of different beliefs now days and it is ignorant of him to think that they won't be exposed to it. She should be strong in the way she raises her children and should proud of who she is. She is not a bad person because she believes in something and no one has the right to judge her except God. The kids come first. If he can't accept that then maybe he needs to talk to a therapist. Good luck.
since a muslim woman can not marry a non ,muslim,therefore this marriage is nullified,if at all she has become muslim,why now the faith in Allah absent pertaining to her present situation ?


she has taken a very positive step,now she MUST rely and Trust allah that Allah will help her out of her problems,and Insha Allah,Allah will give her strength and show her the path,of peace