Needing Marriage Advice?

My husband and I have been together for 7 years, married for just over 1 year (i'm 25, he's 24). I believe he has changed since we got married; he puts me down a lot. He always tells me I'm negative and I ask why? And he always says he doesn't want to talk about it. He gets mad when I am on the computer and he's watching tv; He says he wants me to watch tv with him and I'm always ont he computer. We have nothing in common...I think about separating with him at least once a day. I'm not happy in the relationship. He's also a teacher, so he's on summer break and is around all the time. He thinks I should be his sole purpose of entertainment and gets mad if I do anything else. He also sees me as his ';piece of meat';; at least that's how I feel. But I don't want to have sex with him anymore because he's such a jerk. He's always gropes me and says ';show me your boobs';; I feel it's degrading, and have told him that. I've suggested counseling, but he says no. What should I do? Suggestions?Needing Marriage Advice?
Counseling. And if he refuses to go, you go on your own.


You sound intelligent and perceptive, and already know that you don't deserve shoddy treatment.


You may not be able to change his behavior, but if, after counseling, you find that you can't tolerate things anymore, then put a plan in place to separate. Maybe then, if he sees you're serious, he may decide the relationship is worth saving and begin to work on himself.


Sounds like a good idea, too, to be careful about not getting pregnant (which, I'm sure, you already realize). Adding a child to this wouldn't be a good idea.Needing Marriage Advice?
Is there anything that you two can do together? How about - working out, bicycling, gardening, playing sports, taking a painting class? I find that my husband tends to drive me crazy when we're cooped up in the house too long. Sounds like your husband needs a hobby or two. But, I really think that you both need to find something that you can do together.
Shut the computer off and watch tv with him... Hang out with him... And, about the groping thing... I can't find a thing wrong with it... I sure wish my husband was still hands on. Enjoy it while it lasts.... Plus, get some while you're at it...





If you hold out, he'll get it somewhere else.... and that is no good.
well,fighting is normal but, not the kind you have!!!!!!!!!He is using you just for sex,money,and someone to pay his bills!!!!!!!!!!difforce him!!!!!!!!!!
Start the counseling by yourself if you have to, if you still really want to try to fix it.
I think you should get off the computer and he should get off the couch and stop letting life just slip by
Tuco wishes he could help but wow. Suggest counseling again and again... Adios.
for crying outloud he is your husband!!!


who else is he supposed to grope?


well I would dres like a naughty school girl and keep him happy if I were you !!
Wy Did you marry him??
If you have nothing in common then how did you stay together for 6 years before you got married. And yes your husband is going to grab your *** and say show me your boobs he is your husband. He loves you he wants to be intimate with you. and the thing about the computer it sounds like you might be having an emotional relationship with someone on the computer. Why can't you get off of it and spend time with your husband. Also maybe you too should get out of the house plan something nice for the two of you to do. Like hiking or a day at the beach, or lake something like that. Or maybe take a long drive together and make some mix tapes of songs that remind you of him and vise versa. It's only been a year and you want out come one you said vows you said forever. How could you think about breaking them. You will regret leaving, Work it out and don't just complain. Life is more then the computer, get out there and experiance things!! Good luck
when you say your not happy in the relationship and you don't want sex with him then i suggest you leave because once that spark in your heart is gone let me tell you its gone. I don't care what people say you can work it out. Because when i got turned off by my husband too many times you cant get that love for him you did when you first met or when it was later in the relationship same with me didn't even want to kiss. Hope you make a good decision. good luck.
You and I should be a chat friends or something.I had the same problem at my marriage,and now I/m getting a divorce.Actually We were in marriage 5 years and have two kids..5 and 2years old.I'm 28 years old ....I tried everything ...but it didn't work.He didn't want to change himself, and I didn't want to be his slave anymore.Have a good luck with this, but if he doesn't want to change don't waste your time.The life is just once....use it to make yourself happy and valuable...
Sounds like he's still in school, i.e., really immature. However, he also sounds like he is insecure with himself, that's why he needs you around so much, and he also sounds alittle normal for a young guy groping you is just his way of having alittle sexual fun in his mind, he doesn't see anything wrong with it. And really, as long it's in the privacy of your home, with no one else around, what is the problem with it, your young loosen up alittle, don't be a prude. My wife used to feel the same way. Finally I quit asking, and she was happy for a while, then she started complaining I didn't love her body anymore, I thought she was nutz, reminded her she complained when I was having fun with her, and asked me to stop, I did, then I didn't love her body anymore cause I followed her wishes, my god, you woman are crazy. My friends, think it's funny cause they still do it all the time just joking around, they say my wife is a nut now too, their in the fifties and are still doing it, they think it keeps their marriage fun and alive say it keeps them young. Must work, they still look like their in their late 30s, while my wife, who was a prude for so long, is in her forties and looks like she is in her fifties. Don't get me wrong I love my wife, but she is nutz!