This is a really tough situation. It's not going to be easy to get out of either. Sadly, life hands you these things and you have to be strong to get through them.
You either need to:
Leave his sorry *** and get a man who treats you right.
or:
Send him to jail.
If you love him, it's the best thing you can do for him. He needs to clean up his act and jail will might do the trick.
It's going to be very hard for you and for him, but in the long-run you will benefit from it. Once he's out, I'd recommend leaving to a different city or state so he doesn't have any association with his former drug people.
or:
put him in rehab. I don't know if you are also on drugs, but if so, then you both need to go to rehab if you want to save your marriage.Marriage Advice Help Please?
Did you know your husband dealt drugs before you married him? If you did, then you knew what you were getting involved with and you need to stick by him and support him. If this is new, you should get out of this relationship.
He is going to drag you down with him. Do you want the father of your children to be a drug dealer?
good luck.
You shouldn't need counseling to tell him to quit selling %26amp; using drugs or else you're leaving. If you don't stand up for yourself in this issue, then you will never have peace in your home. If you give in, he's liable to get arrested or killed and perhaps you could suffer the same fate.
He has put the drugs before you -- not necessarily the studio. For him to be so committed to this sales venture, he's probably using too.
Don't waste any more of your time or your heart on him. Find someone worthy of you, %26amp; move on. ~;/%26gt;
I don't know where you live, but in California, the only time a therapist can call the authorities is if someone has threatened harm against others or if they feel the person is a threat to themselves.
Separate from him, and especially if there are children involved. He's put himself in a potentially dangerous situation. You shouldn't be dragged into his mess.
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Sounds to me that hes not ready to grow up. He's not putting his family first and that should be his highest priority
does your husband sell drugs or his partner or both?
your a narc!
geeze way to pick them
Listen girl...this is a choice you have to make for yourself. Do you respect yourself? Everyone makes mistakes and sometimes it is worth admitting them. I would not bother with marriage counseling. I would have a serious talk w/you husband and give him an ultimatum to see if you can work it out. Let him know that is unacceptable to you to be involved w/drugs, if this has been acceptable to you in the past then you need to let him know that you have changed, you two are too old for this, and you don't feel comfortable risking the lives you have built together and future children or ones you have. That is my advice and opinion if I was in that situation, but you have to be the one who decides what is right for you. What is a marriage counselor going to do? This is something you can either resolve by yourselves or not. You obviously know drugs are illegal. Your husband can sell the studio or his share and sort out some kind of thing with his partner. The economy is a great excuse to not have resources tied up when you might need to allocate them in other areas. It does not need to be communicated to the partner you want out bc of drugs. I would get out and hope you never have any ramifications from it.
P.S. If your husband didn't know the guy sells and does drugs then either decide if you want to continue the investment w/the guy or not. If you are both drug-free and not profiting...good luck proving any involvement by either of you if you are not profiting from the drug-use. I would def understand you not being comfortable w/it, I just don't think a marriage counselor is the answer. I think counselors are over-rated and people use them when they just dont' want to put in effort to communicate.
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