Marriage discord- please advice?

I am a Hindu and I got married this year . she has become pregnant now. our relation was not good since 1st week of marriage. she is staying in her parents place sine 3 months and we are not in contact to each other. Now I am not interested to continue my relationship with her. I know its not easy to get divorce without her consent. But please guide me when I need to file the case. What are procedures related to divorce?Marriage discord- please advice?
Dear Kirugp,





Yes.. Now a days most of the girls are like that..


They have no patience and their level of maturity and understanding is so poor compared to the previous generation.





When we get married, we only give importance for the physical appearance and even though we want to know more about the girl, the chances are few and yet it s difficult,





So, we get into the most Vital chain of our life called Marriage just with a guess that everything ll happen smoothly.





But, when at certain point of time, we will get the clear picture of what our wife REALLLY is.





But at that time it will be too difficult to go back to get rid of the relationship.





Just We need to adjust with her, however she is. May be she too need to adjust with us however we are..





Its is really VERY VERY VERY VERY VERY VERY VERY Hard to get the exact girl who matches our frequency... Only few are blessed with that.. Almost 99% of the hubbies are just leading the life for the sake of their children and the society.





When years pass by you ll understand how to move with ur wife in a better way. Else u got ur kid to make u happy. She too may correct few of her mistakes and ll try to understand you. Hope everything will turn good for you and let the GOD give the patience till then....Marriage discord- please advice?
You have not enlightened about why your relation is not good and what and who is the cause for it. As it is said, You cannot clap from a single palm.


Whether your wife is working and economically independent.


Whether yours is love marriage and arranged marriage.


Whether you took dowry from your Parents in law?


Whether her mother is having a dominating role at her house?


If your Father in law is a muff and silent spectator for all the issues?


What about your Parents?Especially your Mother's attitude.


In many cases, the problem starts from Boy's mother such as quarreling, nagging and snubbing and disrespecting her daughter in law and you being a husband not taking care of such silly things of your Mother and letting her to all sorts of bad treatments from your mother. Not defending your wife in such circumstances so on and so forth will lead to dissatisfaction and bad opinion on you from your wife. Do not talk one way just for the sake of taking divorce. Your stand is not acceptable. You have to show love and sympathy to your wife and try to compromise in many things. Otherwise, there will be no end to such things and you will be marrying a girl every three months. It is not that easy to take divorce.
To my experience, I have seen several of these situations over silly marital disputes. Please do not make wrong in living her alone in her present pregnancy condition. Be sure and remained 100% assured, she will desire you after she delivers the baby. Please keep quite, rather visit her frequently, despite her rejections upon yourself and your parents. I assure you she will repent for the past ill behaviour on her own and will definitely beg apology on you. As well you are the sole guiding factor for her after she has been brought to your life as the sole mate. Thanks.
';Mahilao ki budhhi ulti hoti hai'; Lekin tum to pagal mat bano.She is going to become mother of your first child. 'Judai' me bhi pyar badhta hai. Let her live with her Mom for some time.Try to adjustment.Divorce is not a good option.It will be O.K. in due time.





Good Luck
If you are in a western country then it's a civil matter and you just get a lawyer and file the paperwork for divorce. You'll be owing child support, however, for the coming baby.
be very careful ..u say ur relation was not good since 1st week? Was it YOUR relation with her..or YOUR PARENTS?


that makes it a big difference..


when u guys marry n get ur wife home..keep in mind that she is new to everything..she needs some time to adapt ,and most of all a welcoming home...and not a nagging mother in law...








If they had some fights etc,did u show some respect towards ur wife?why would she make false allegations? Don't be blindly in love with ur mom..Most of the marriages which collapse are due to other family members...remember its ur child ,which will grow without YOU...





So visit ur wife,show some love n caring..after all she's carrying ur child ..try to keep her calm n relax..





And common sense tells that if ur family is so good,they will never let u abandon ur wife and ur child.





You say ,she will not give her consent..that itself shows that ,she does NOT want a divorce..so why are u wanting ??


you want to find out ways to get divorce without her consent??that puts u in a very bad light..sorry to say..





Also keep in mind,according to hindu marriage law..if ur wife goes n complains about ur parents within 7yrsof ur marriage or as u say she makes allegations ,in police,then they can go to jail .BUT she has not done anything like that,so she probably just needs some love n caring from you ..give her that.