Anyone have any advice about marriage?

Ummm... So here I am; left with the same old feelings that I've been having since I was about 20 years old. All I ever wanted was to have someone to take good care of, spend time with, and....basically just love. I've been in a number of situations with women; most of them before I accepted Islam. Everything from being used by women, adultry, and etc... I was even at a point where I found myself spending like $4000 on a fortune teller because I thought she had the answer for the reason I couldn't find a girlfriend. I fell in love with someone else's wife on three occassions; thats why I can see why a man and a woman should never be left alone unless they r married. I had a real live version of the movie ';Pretty Woman'; going on after two months of accepting Islam which ended safely. I don't have patience to wait for a muslim girl and I'm afraid to speak out about it to my Imam. I'm falling for a woman at my job that has a five year old son and has divorced recently; I know it wont workAnyone have any advice about marriage?
i'd suggest you ask one of the Imams in your area...theres nothing to be embarrased of....ur feelings are quite normal.....alot of young muslims go to their local mosques and ask Imam to set a suitable match for them........its time for u to get married...actually, it was time for u to get married long time ago.....anyway....so yeah u should talk to an imam or ur muslims friends to suggest you muslim ladies that are looking for a husband.....im sure u'll find a very good muslimah with good background and good character.....n muslim girls usually dont already have a boyfriend....neither do they leave their husbands and run away (as u said one of ur fears are).....dont worry im sure things will turn out good for u...think positive...





also, look for someone with good islamic values, rather then someone pretty lookin but with a trashy characterAnyone have any advice about marriage?
you sound to me like the clingy type. so that aint gonna get you anywhere.





also why are you afraid to speak to your local imam? is it better to suffer. if its getting to the point where you're on the verge of haram you need to GET MARRIED. just look properly instead of wasting time
I DONT KNOW WHAT TO TELL YOU, BUT I REMEMBER WHAT I TOLD YOU LAST QUESTION, ABOUT THE GIRL FROM WORK. JUST PRAY, THINK OF ALLAH (SWT), DO GOOD THINGS AND INSHALLAH YOU WILL FIND SOMEONE, I'LL PRAY FOR YOU.
well i would say have an arranged marriage.


or you just might just have a taste for married and taken women
Do yourself a favor and go find a nice Muslim girl to marry.
I don't have time 2 read wat u rote! Gah, wow, buh gooluck~
Well, for starters, the main advice is that I hope that the main thing you are doing about this situation is praying.





Ask your guy friends about any available and looking Muslimah females they know. Become a bit more sociable- you might meet a jewel somewhere unexpected. I'm sure you must have a hobby or two that will be in common with at least ONE Muslimah in your town.
My dear brother Khalid in the Qur'an,Allah spoke that good guy is for good girl and bad guy is for bad girl.In the hadith Muhammad pbuh said that a non muslim who convert to Islam all sins of his mistakes while in kafir period will be forgiven by Allah while his good doings will be rewarded.So you are like a new born baby without sin.After converting to Islam,his mistake will be counted again.So you must ask for Allah forgiveness by repent it and swear to Allah to you wil not do bad doings such as adultery,gambling,drinking alcoholic drinks,insulting others,etc and do not believe to fortune teller.In hadith Muhammad pbuh prohibited muslim to love the wife of other and the fiance of other.You must seek a single good muslimah although she is a widow with her son as long as she has an inner beauty and practise Islam in everyday life.If she is fit for you you can ask for permission to get married with her from her parents. You must keep be patient because Allah will give you a spouse through your good intention and hard effort to find the best muslimah for you.You must remind that what is good in your eyes not the same with good in Allah's eyes.Sometimes you hates her but she is good for you.Hate and love just like the other side of a coin.Insya Allah you can find her at last.Salam for you
woah!


thats...ok leave...strange..how can you just think about some one else's wife. any ways now you are in problem!


so just keep waiting with patience, don't be so in hurry. Wait until God makes you meet her. Cause there is always some one for every one. Don't worry and pray that she should also be trustworthy (you must be trustworthy for that), loving(you are the first part of condition) and also caring and compromising, including you to become!
you don't have to explain everything to the imam. Just tell him you want to complete the other half of your deen by getting married. I think brother perhaps the reason you have not had luck is that you are attracted to those women who are in fact unobtainable for you. Perhaps you want to get married but you have problems with intimacy (the emotional type) and that's why you fall for women you cannot have. Because that's safer for you as you know it will eventually lead no where. Maybe its the fear of a long term commitment, only Allah swt knows. In any case, for your sake you have to make a serious effort to look at yourself and do a bit of inventory. Then inshallah you will be able to find that woman who will make you happy in every way. Stay strong brother.
Why don't you just go to your Imam? Explain that you'd like to get married and if he could help you. And get to know your local muslim families. Usually they love to help matchmaking and they would definitely match you with a muslimah.





Rather than go to fortune teller, why not pray to Allah? Beg forgiveness for your past sins and don't repeat. Do the istikarah prayer so Allah would give you focus and clarity. And just stop chasing married and otherwise unavailable women! You should be in control of your heart and desires, not the other way around.





good luck.

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