Help need advice for bff marriage!!?

my bff has been married for 8 years .about a year ago her and her husband seprated for a month during this time she met another man .she went back to her husband.she doesnt love him anymore but shes trying to do the right thing.but shes in love with the other man and her husband treats her like a dog they have three kids and she wants to make it work but she keeps talking to the other man she cant seem to let him go .she wants my advice but i cant please help.Help need advice for bff marriage!!?
It's hard, especially since you're so emotoinally involved. If she wants to do the right thing, the only way to do that is to avoid the other man. If he really cares about her, he'd understand and not insist that he can't live without her, thus giving her the guilt trip. If her husband is treating her like a dog, it might be that he realizes what's going on with her and that someone else.





My advice to her would be to make up her mind about what will work for her. If she wants to be with the Father of the kids for their sake, then she needs to get out of the other relationship or at least put it on hold for a little while. If she wants her children to see her in a good relationship with this other man, she would need to dump her husband and go with the new guy.





There is no easy answer here--that's the toughest part. But any decision that is made has to be made 100%. She can't just keep leading both of them on and think that things will work out in the end for her. It's impossible because the human heart can only be torn so much!Help need advice for bff marriage!!?
OK. First, lets be honest. A spouse that is trying to make their marriage work, doesn't keep a relationship going with a person they were involved with during a separation. And, people don't ';try'; to ';let another person go'; They do- or they DON'T. So, she ISN'T trying to do the right thing. I can't know IF she should stay married. But, I KNOW she won't, if she keeps playing with another guy while married.
Well she has two choices as I see it...1 stay with her loser husband and be miserable for every or 2. divorce his butt and marry the guy she really loves.
So it took 8 years for her to lose the love she had for her husband.


She's found someone ';new'; and can start that 8 year cycle again.


I am assuming she loved her husband to begin with.


He's treating her like a dog because why? There has to be a reason. He loved her at the beginning.


They made 3 babies.


Why not go back to the start and behave like you did then? Back when everything was perfect?
Marriages take work, from both parties. Her and her husband need to work on the marriage. Either through counseling or other means. It looks like she's not being appreciated or is not getting the affection she needs. Which is why she keeps holding on to the other man.





She needs to figure out what she wants and what is missing and needs to be able to communicate it.





If she can work on the marriage and get her husband to work on it too, perhaps both of them can find some happiness.
try to work it out, like a best friend would to a best friend that means you have something to cherish that money cant buy or replace, try going somewhere together long distance to get the feel of atmoshphere of the two of ya awl. most important what do you want to be remembered by your partner as???how about a great experience that keeps on growing and challenging each other, try not to be in a hurry, i know thats hard in this day and age, time usually is a healer in a healthy status of ethics and community.
Don't let her issues become yours... I know you're friends, but even so... she will have to make the right choice for herself, not what you think... or what I may tell you! Good Luck!
If her husband treats her like a dog tell her to get divorced and also suggest that she never get married again no matter what happens. We all know how that ends up!!! Divorced or lying to yourself and not in love anymore.